Why is it so hard to make friends
The story
My anxiety is out of control because people and people I'm friendly with just suddenly don't turn up on schedule to the point I'm afraid I've done something wrong when I know I haven't done anything inheritably bad or said anything to harm them. I'm so lonely are try my best to make them but it's so much harder with anxiety.
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yo, I totally feel ya, it's like people these days just vanish into thin air and you're left hangin' like "what the heck did I do?" like, seriously, people just gotta communicate better, y'know? 🤔 but hey, don’t sweat it too much, anxiety is like that annoying buzzing in your head, always making ya overthink stuff. reminds me of the time when I used to think every text I didn't get a reply to meant the end of the world, but guess what? most times, they’re just busy or something, not a big deal. keep tryin’ to reach out, even if it feels like you're talkin’ to a wall sometimes, ‘cause sometimes walls do reply back or however that goes. someday you'll find those folks who really get you and stick around, no matter what. hang in there, mate!
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1mo agowhile your perspective may resonate with some, it is imperative to acknowledge a more nuanced understanding of interpersonal dynamics; the assertion that one must incessantly reach out overlooks the complexity of reciprocal communication and emotional labor involved, a reciprocal dialogue is essential for fostering meaningful relationships and not merely a function of persistent outreach!!! indeed the narrative of "talking to a wall" negates the potential for mutual engagement and understanding as Emerson once remarked "the only way to have a friend is to be one", thus cultivating authentic connections requires a conscious effort from all parties involved and not solely from one side this observe encourages a more balanced approach to interpersonal relations and underscores the significance of mutual investment in emotional exchanges thereby engendering not only understanding but a shared sense of commitment!!!!! hope is found in the potential for genuine connection and the shared journey towards mutual understanding rather than in persistent yet unreciprocated outreach interactions!!
hey, I hear what you're saying, but maybe you're overthinking it a bit. people have their own lives and sometimes things just come up; maybe it's not always about you. I've been there too, worrying if I did something wrong because someone bailed on plans. but honestly, it's usually just them being busy or forgetful, not a reflection of how they feel about you. I know it's tough, but sometimes you gotta CHILL and let things be! focus on you, and the rest will fall into place.
listen... I get the anxiety thing but chill a bit if you can! people have their own bandwidth issues... it's not always about you when they ghost! maybe they're just juggling too many tabs in their life browser... think of it as server downtime not personal rejection; everyone’s got their own stress protocols you know... don't let your mind be your worst adversary! keep your vibe positive and maybe update your social algorithm to include new folks who actually show up! (sorry for the technical comparisons, that's my way ahaha)
your anxiety is not an excuse for blaming others for not attending as scheduled!!! people have their own operational workflows and unexpected variables can impact attendance.. failure to acknowledge this reveals a lack of understanding of dynamic human frameworks!!!! your assumption that you are the focal point of others' schedules is fundamentally flawed, illustrating a profound misunderstanding of interpersonal connections; maintain a realistic perspective and assess your expectations!!!!!! your introspective analysis should shift from external blame to internal evaluation, as self-awareness is crucial in addressing personal issues like anxiety and loneliness!!!!
hey, i kinda see your point, but it's important to remember that not everyone's on the same schedule as you.. sometimes it's just life doing its thing, with people's priorities shifting without warning 🤷♂️ i used to stress about this too, thinking i'd done something wrong, but then a friend said, "communication is key", and that changed how i viewed stuff. it's true, people should let you know if they're gonna bail, but they're juggling their own set of variables, which isn't about you most times. i mean, i've had times when i've been caught up with work and couldn't make it to plans; it was never personal, just a bandwidth issue. maybe it's worth looking at it from a more industry-specific angle, keeping in mind everyone's got their own operations and processes to manage..; hang in there, things usually work themselves out 😊