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IIWIARS is an anonymous venting site. Write about what's weighing on you under an automatically generated pseudonym, read other people's stories, and get points of view on your situation.

It's a place to share and discuss, not a therapy service. The name stands for “If I Was In A Reality Show”: here's why.

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I keep typing insecurity in relationship into search bars like the search results are gonna tell me why I am acting like this. My boyfriend Evan has never cheated, never hidden some secret girlfriend, and never given me a clear reason to distrust him. This whole mess started with his running app. I am losing my mind…

I need to vent
Family Drama Stories

at this point, I need to vent because my apartment has become the family event venue by default. apparently, being the only adult sibling without children means my home has unlimited capacity, no scheduling requirements, and a complimentary cleanup crew, namely me. nobody says this outright, but every invitation they…

Welp guys i finally found a group and im happy but major but lol i met this girl and shes cute amazing person and well you know shot the shot got rejected oh well right its fine but then me and her grow closer and honestly guys im the type of person to spoil anyone i care about wether it be friends so i spoil her and…

I joined a group of women who work as communicators within the system. I feel somewhat exhausted by the task—a role I took on because one of the women wanted me by her side. I think she wanted someone to share her conversations and experiences with, so she wouldn’t feel alone among a group of women whose lives are…

how do i stop thinking?
Health and Wellbeing Stories

I keep typing "how do i stop thinking?" into my notes app and then deleting it because the whole thing sounds ridiculous when I see it written down. At 6:10 p.m., I was standing inside a packed train near the center doors, holding a paper bag with soup leaking through the bottom. A woman beside me, maybe around my…

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I hate myself
Friendship Stories

I've come to the harsh realization that perhaps, I'm not the nicest person around. In my mid-thirties, I find myself surrounded only by a single friend and a girlfriend, yet I can't shake the feeling that I'm somehow superior to others. My lifestyle is quite reclusive; I shy away from any social gatherings related to…

Hey everyone, I’m not usually one to air my personal stuff, but I really need some advice here. For the past few months, I’ve had this gut feeling that my wife might be cheating on me, and it's eating me alive. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but the signs are starting to pile up, and I’m just not sure what to…

I’m not as self centered and competitive as I used to (thanks therapy lmfao) but tonight something funny happened at one of my english’s classes. My teacher told me in a certain a way that I was being a little bit competitive because I was talking fast and my partner at a project didn’t understood what I was saying.…

Before I go any further into my upbringing, I think it's worth mentioning how my parents met and also dive more into my parents' journey before they found each other...

So fun fact, both my parents met each other because they both had strong musical abilities to the point where they both had jobs as tribute artists…

It’s Time to Stop Making Excuses
Health and Wellbeing Stories

For the longest time, I’ve been stuck in this cycle of excuses. I’d wake up every morning telling myself I’d make changes, that today would be different, but by the time the day ended, I was back to square one. Whether it’s eating healthier, exercising, or even just cleaning my space, I keep putting it off. I’d tell…

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  1. Sign in with an account you already have (Google, Apple, Facebook, Microsoft and others). IIWIARS does not save your name or email address: it keeps a pseudonym generated from your account identifier, and that pseudonym is what other people see.
  2. Share your story in the category that fits, with an optional poll. Stories are reviewed before they are published.
  3. Read the points of view left on your story and reply to them. Replies are public and can be removed if they break the rules.

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