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IIWIARS is an anonymous venting site. Write about what's weighing on you under an automatically generated pseudonym, read other people's stories, and get points of view on your situation.

It's a place to share and discuss, not a therapy service. The name stands for “If I Was In A Reality Show”: here's why.

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i care too much
Neighbor Disputes

so i got feedback from my boss yesterday and it really rubbed me the wrong way. they said that i'm taking on too many tasks because i'm always trying to help others. like, i get it, maybe i'm a bit too caring sometimes but what am i supposed to do? just ignore people's problems? anyway, it's apparently affecting my…

I messed up
Workplace Drama

I can't even begin to describe the chaos that erupted when I realized I totally messed up the scheduling for our company's biggest event of the year. Somehow, in the whirlwind of emails, spreadsheets, and calendar reminders, I booked the venue for the wrong date. We're talking about an event with hundreds of clients…

How to not feel guilty?
Life Coach Issues Stories

So, here’s the thing. I just inherited a chunk of cash from a distant relative who I barely knew. Like, I’m talking about a family tree that’s more of a shrub. At first, I was like, “Woohoo, money!” But then guilt slapped me in the face. Like, how do I enjoy this windfall when so many people are out there grinding…

Dear Stranger,

I hope you are doing good. I’ve been carrying something heavy for months and it’s time to toss it into the ocean. In March, my ex-boyfriend broke up over text a few days after our one-month anniversary. We fought because I brought up my issues, and he suddenly ended it, refusing to sort things out. He…

I cheated on my boyfriend... there, I said it. And I never told him. Before you start throwing virtual tomatoes at me, let me just explain. Alright? It was a one-night stand that happened months ago. We had this huge fight (like the kind where you're yelling and dramatic...) you know the drill. At that moment, I…

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I hate myself
Friendship Stories

I've come to the harsh realization that perhaps, I'm not the nicest person around. In my mid-thirties, I find myself surrounded only by a single friend and a girlfriend, yet I can't shake the feeling that I'm somehow superior to others. My lifestyle is quite reclusive; I shy away from any social gatherings related to…

Hey everyone, I’m not usually one to air my personal stuff, but I really need some advice here. For the past few months, I’ve had this gut feeling that my wife might be cheating on me, and it's eating me alive. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but the signs are starting to pile up, and I’m just not sure what to…

It’s Time to Stop Making Excuses
Health and Wellbeing Stories

For the longest time, I’ve been stuck in this cycle of excuses. I’d wake up every morning telling myself I’d make changes, that today would be different, but by the time the day ended, I was back to square one. Whether it’s eating healthier, exercising, or even just cleaning my space, I keep putting it off. I’d tell…

Got lots
Love Stories

Got lots of love to give but no one wants to have it. They want the toxic ones.

How can I remember someone that I used to love with happiness and not pain?

There’s someone that I truly loved with my whole heart and he was for a while my best friend.

We met at a volunteer and then we became really like really close. He became my best friend. He truly understood me and knew about the mazes…

How anonymous venting works on IIWIARS

  1. Sign in with an account you already have (Google, Apple, Facebook, Microsoft and others). IIWIARS does not save your name or email address: it keeps a pseudonym generated from your account identifier, and that pseudonym is what other people see.
  2. Share your story in the category that fits, with an optional poll. Stories are reviewed before they are published.
  3. Read the points of view left on your story and reply to them. Replies are public and can be removed if they break the rules.

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