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IIWIARS is an anonymous venting site. Write about what's weighing on you under an automatically generated pseudonym, read other people's stories, and get points of view on your situation.

It's a place to share and discuss, not a therapy service. The name stands for “If I Was In A Reality Show”: here's why.

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No one cares about you
Friendship Stories

hey so i've been planning my birthday for weeks now, sent out invites wayy in advance, you know? super excited cause i finally got a chance to catch up with my friends, all of them together. but reality check - everyone and i mean every single one of them is pulling out last minute with these 'reasons.' like…

So I've been feeling this weird itch in my relationship lately. You know that feeling when something just seems off? Well, I stumbled upon one of the strangest finds ever in my girlfriend's car: a man's watch. Like, what? It definitely doesn’t belong to me or her. Now I'm left scratching my head, wondering if I should…

finding out that someone you thought was a ride-or-die has been talking trash behind your back is a real kick in the gut. recently, my best friend, the one I considered basically family, got caught red-handed. we were at a party having a good time, and then bam, a mutual acquaintance drops the bomb. my brain just…

Might be kind of like a part 2 to my first post, but....I'm a woman in my mid-30s looking for some outside perspectives, especially from men, about a longtime male friend (also mid-30s).

We've been close friends for years, spend time together regularly, and have a very comfortable relationship. I've had romantic…

sad to happy
Friendship Stories

Today started on a rough note. I had a small disagreement with a close friend, which left me feeling disheartened and uneasy. The back-and-forth was unexpected and left me questioning whether I'd misjudged the situation or if it was just an off day for both of us. Feeling pretty low, I decided to distract myself by…

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I hate myself
Friendship Stories

I've come to the harsh realization that perhaps, I'm not the nicest person around. In my mid-thirties, I find myself surrounded only by a single friend and a girlfriend, yet I can't shake the feeling that I'm somehow superior to others. My lifestyle is quite reclusive; I shy away from any social gatherings related to…

Hey everyone, I’m not usually one to air my personal stuff, but I really need some advice here. For the past few months, I’ve had this gut feeling that my wife might be cheating on me, and it's eating me alive. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but the signs are starting to pile up, and I’m just not sure what to…

It’s Time to Stop Making Excuses
Health and Wellbeing Stories

For the longest time, I’ve been stuck in this cycle of excuses. I’d wake up every morning telling myself I’d make changes, that today would be different, but by the time the day ended, I was back to square one. Whether it’s eating healthier, exercising, or even just cleaning my space, I keep putting it off. I’d tell…

How can I remember someone that I used to love with happiness and not pain?

There’s someone that I truly loved with my whole heart and he was for a while my best friend.

We met at a volunteer and then we became really like really close. He became my best friend. He truly understood me and knew about the mazes…

Dear Stranger,

I hope you are doing good. I’ve been carrying something heavy for months and it’s time to toss it into the ocean. In March, my ex-boyfriend broke up over text a few days after our one-month anniversary. We fought because I brought up my issues, and he suddenly ended it, refusing to sort things out. He…

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  1. Sign in with an account you already have (Google, Apple, Facebook, Microsoft and others). IIWIARS does not save your name or email address: it keeps a pseudonym generated from your account identifier, and that pseudonym is what other people see.
  2. Share your story in the category that fits, with an optional poll. Stories are reviewed before they are published.
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