Dating Stories

I’ve been dating my current GF for about a year now. I do love her and we were friends for a few years before we started dating. But she recently told me that she is ace(asexual). I want to be physically intimate in that way with the person I am dating, but I thought I could give that up to stay with her.

Now that I’ve given it some more thought however if things become more serious between us then I don’t know if I want to spend the rest of my life with a partner who isn’t physically attracted to me in that way.

But if I do break up with her I’m afraid I might lose her as a friend as well. I don’t have very many other people in my life outside of my family who I am close with, and after recently losing some close family members I am hesitant to lose another person who I care about. My GF is also going through a rough time lately and the last thing I want to do is add a breakup on top of that.

I don’t really know what to do in this situation, and I also don’t know if I’m selfish for wanting to end the relationship over this. If anyone has any advice I would very much appreciate it.

One day online I met a boy 13 year old me didn’t think anything of it we turned into really good friends then he asked me out I said “yes” because I liked him to the older we got the more off and on we became but we never fought or argued we just wanted to experiment other people I didn’t have a problem with it because we made a promise to eachother that we will always find a way back to eachother and get married and have kids things like that he was my first everything even though I seen him many times anytime I seen him it felt like the first time i couldn’t help but get shy everytime. As time passed by we got older we didn’t talk for a couple months because he got a girlfriend I respected it so it didn’t bother me one random day I got a FaceTime call from a number I didn’t have saved or didn’t recognize it was him we didn’t speak for 6 months and suddenly he calls it was like a dream kind of we laughed and talked he wanted to meet and he told me how much he missed me how could he miss me but he was still with her it didn’t make sense I brushed it off later that day I made an excuse to get off the phone.A couple hours passed and he texted me with a paragraph saying how he messed up and he’s sorry and he thinks we should be together when we are older or just stay how we are he said that he loves me but he loves his girlfriend too I responded “if you loved her you wouldn’t be texting me” he replied and said “your right but you’ve been there through everything at my lowest you were there I’m gonna always have love for you “ I replied “im confused what’s wrong why are you acting like this “ he replied “you wouldn’t understand I’m not gonna give up on us even if you do I’m so sorry” I started to get angry because nothing was making sense I replied “what do you think I am huh I’m tired of being everyones second option I’m not doing it you love her stay with her don’t text or call me “ he replied “how could you be my second option if you were my first choice “ I replied “if you were for me there wouldn’t be any choices” he replied “you fuck it up for us not just you me too we both did everytime we got together it was right person wrong timing that’s why I’m in this situation I’m in because we couldn’t get the timing right” he typed “let’s talk on Wednesday please “ I replied “okay”

He replied “I love you “

I replied “ I love you most”

The next day he texted me “Goodmoring text me when you wake up “

I texted back that I was up

Hours went by no reply

Then I sent a text at 7:34 pm

Didn’t go through

I turned to my sister and asked if I could use her phone I typed his number in her phone and sent a text

It went through

I sent another text

“Why did you block me ?”

He read it

I hear my phone “DING DING DING”

I go to grab my phone he unblocked me and said “can you just leave me alone you said to stop texting you and to leave you alone that’s what I’m doing “

“Did you text my girlfriend ?“

“Just let me be happy stop tryna ruin my relationship “

Tears form up in my eyes I didn’t understand why I replied “I didn’t text anyone “

3 days passed a notification popped up someone requested my account I requested there’s back boom I’m accepted I click on there story ……. My stomach started to turn my eyes felt like they were on fire it was his girlfriend posted him and her but that’s not only it her 3 highlight was a picture and in the picture there was a baby his girlfriend was 6 months pregnant it all started to make sense now I didn’t know what to do it’s not like I could do anything all I did was cry and cry I had to accept another women’s baby will have the eyes of my first love the eyes that 13 year old me looked into maybe in another life He didn’t break our promise .

The whole situation feels overwhelming right now, and honestly, the feedback would be much appreciated – I’m in a bit of a rough spot, so thanks for being understanding.

Joining a new school halfway through the year, back in April, didn't give me much time to socialize and make friends before the summer break started. During one of my solo lunch breaks, I sat next to a quiet boy named Alex, who was also sitting by himself. As it turned out, Alex wasn’t just shy; he was autistic. Noticing he had on a space camp t-shirt, I struck up a conversation about it since astronomy seemed to be his passion. He eagerly shared his space camp experiences, spiraling into other astronomical topics. It was enjoyable – his enthusiasm was infectious, and I barely needed to talk, just listen, which was pretty cool. We began sitting together frequently, and over time, we communicated a little over the summer too. Now, I'd consider Alex my friend.

This school year, we share a few classes, and even though I've made other friends, Alex and I still spend time together. He invited me over this past weekend to check out his new telescope, a birthday gift. It was exciting to see it, and his parents were genuinely welcoming, expressing that I was always welcome to visit. We managed to explore nebulas and various astronomical phenomena using his telescope linked to a laptop. It got late, and his dad offered to drive me home, since he needed to stop by the store anyway. During the ride, he started a typical dad conversation but suddenly asked if Alex and I were dating. I chuckled, dismissing it, but then he oddly suggested that if I took Alex to the homecoming dance, he'd cover all expenses and even offer extra. The suggestion startled me, and I escaped the situation as quickly as I could once we reached my house.

At home, I tried to shrug it off, but my dad noticed something was off. After some coaxing, I explained what happened. He reassured me, emphasizing that I shouldn’t feel pressured into dating or attending dances with anyone.

Since then, things got a bit strained. Alex missed a couple of days at school, and when he returned, he seemed downtroverted and anxious. He eventually revealed that his parents had argued a great deal following the incident. Knowing the tension at home was partly because of me made me uneasy; especially since I recognized how significant it was for Alex to have friends over.

Movng on from this incident, Alex and I would probably face challenges in our friendship. Hypothetically speaking, if this story unfolded on a reality show, the magnitude of the reaction would be immense. Viewers might see this as a dramatic turn of events, inciting tons of viewer speculation and discussion on social pressures and parental involvement in friendships and social outings among teens. It would stoke widespread talk about boundaries and advocacy, where I'd likely be in the hot seat navigating this delicate friendship dynamic in front of an audience.

Should parents intervene in teen friendships? For me no, at least not like that...

So, I have this ex, right? We've been in this super on-again-off-again thing, which honestly has been nothing but a theater of drama. Now get this—the other day, while fuming down the street about some misunderstanding, they bumped into my neighbor. This neighbor loves drama, apparently, as they've now swapped social media info and begun chatting. My ex got asked out, but hasn't accepted... yet.

Even though I don't particularly care about them dating, the thought bothers me somewhat because I've learned the hard way about keeping a safe, respectful distance from neighbors. It's just way too complex when you mix it too close, and neighbors are kinda unavoidable, aren't they? So, when I heard about this budding friendship, I had to admit it creeped me out. I just wish they'd keep things more distant and respectful regarding my personal space.

My ex, well, they're just in their early darting into adulthood and haven't really got a grip on how to navigate emotions or understand the necessity for healthy boundaries. Basically, their handle on their emotions is like a kite in a tornado. When something sets them off, it's not just a small show—it’s premium drama, and sometimes even a bit destructive.

Honestly, bringing this character flaw into consideration, I'm really worried. If this person has a history of making my life a melodrama series and now they're in touch with my neighbor, who knows what kind of mess might get started? My gut tells me this could spiral into another chapter of unwanted chaos, or worse, it could turn into a subtle game of emotional manipulation, given our rocky past.

Reflecting on all this, it makes me ponder—would it be completely out of line to ask someone you’re dating (or in my case, used to date) to not mingle too closely with your neighbors? Is it appropriate to ask them to withhold sharing too much personal info with people so close to home?

Imagine this scenario playing out on a reality TV show; the tensions, the alignments, the unexpected twists. Viewers would be hooked on how every interaction is magnified, analyzing each character's moves, predicting the fallout. How would the audience react seeing this unfold live? Would they take sides, or call out the apparent manipulation tactics?

What do you think? Is maintaining such a boundary reasonable, or am I just overthinking the whole neighbor-ex dynamic?

I recently connected with a woman named Sarah via an online dating app, and we swapped a few messages before deciding to meet for a coffee. The initial meeting was somewhat dull but pleasant enough, and after having coffee at a local cafe where I picked up the tab, we agreed to continue our outing at a nearby park.

We drove for about half an hour, enjoying some casual tunes and small talk on the way. Arriving at the park, we strolled around, engaging in light conversation about our jobs and hobbies.

Suddenly, I needed to use the restroom. When I returned, I found Sarah chatting animatedly with another guy. As I approached, it was clear he was flirting with her, and to my surprise, she introduced me as just a "friend." He then asked for her number, suggesting they should meet up for a drink. She quickly agreed, they exchanged a warm hug and a cheek kiss, and he left.

Feeling quite put off by the whole thing, I made up an excuse and left without her, driving back home alone. I felt a mix of annoyance and relief as I didn't have to endure the awkward ride back.

Sometimes, I wonder if I acted too hastily, or if it was the right call given the situation.

Imagine if this scenario unfolded on a reality show? The cameras zooming in, capturing every awkward expression and the tension in the air. I bet the audience would have a field day analyzing and reacting to every detail, possibly sympathizing with me or criticizing my quick exit. Would I come off as the villain, or just a guy dodging a bullet?

Did I react too harshly by leaving the date?

Last Sunday, I arranged a date with a girl named Mandy, whom I had become acquainted with through my friend's girlfriend, Sara. Mandy had always struck me as an amiable and engaging person during our brief interactions at football gatherings at my friend's place. Confident that she shared my interest in football, I invited her out to watch a game at a local sports bar, planning to also enjoy dinner and possibly play some pool.

After picking Mandy up, we arrived at the bar where she spotted a friend of hers sitting with a group. After a quick hello, we initially grabbed seats at the bar to eat. Shortly thereafter, Mandy suggested joining her friend's group. Reluctantly, I agreed. Post introductions, I felt quite out of place as Mandy immersed herself with her friends. Attempts at engaging others in conversation about football or other topics didn't pan out well, leaving me sidelined.

As the game neared its end, I informed Mandy of my plans to leave soon, to which she persuaded me to stay for one more drink. What followed were rounds of shots for her group, while I stuck to my soda due to driving responsibilities. Realizing she wasn't wrapping up as indicated, I reiterated my need to leave due to an early morning. Mandy seemed absorbed with her friends, almost oblivious to my departure, and after multiple attempts to gain her attention failed, I eventually left alone.

The fallout came the next day when Sara berated me over the phone for abandoning Mandy at the bar. Despite explaining the situation, Sara dismissed my feelings, suggesting I should have just joined in. Though Mandy was never truly alone, the ordeal has left me questioning if walking out made me a bad person.

Imagine if this scenario played out on a reality show, the drama would certainly be heightened with cameras rolling, capturing every awkward silence and disappointed glance. Viewers would probably be divided, some sympathizing with my feelings of exclusion, others criticizing my decision to leave without Mandy. It's funny how much more intense every reaction and decision can seem when you're under the public's eye.

Did I do the right thing by leaving the bar?