Bridesmaid surprisingly pregnant before wedding date

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Friday, 21 June 2024
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I'm getting married in early September and have chosen four friends as bridesmaids, with one acting as my maid of honor. Recently, one of these friends revealed she's two months pregnant. I was quite surprised, not only by the news itself but also because she hadn't mentioned it sooner. When I confronted her about why she hadn't told me earlier, especially since she had known for weeks, she explained that she didn't feel comfortable sharing the news until now and that even her family wasn’t aware yet. She insisted that I was one of the first to know.

I couldn't help but feel that she should have told me earlier since my wedding is coming up, and I need to make certain adjustments. However, she didn't see it that way and believed that she didn't owe me an early announcement since it was her personal situation. She only shared the news when she felt ready.

I couldn't keep my frustration to myself and ended up discussing the situation with my family and the rest of my bridesmaids. My maid of honor and family members sided with me, saying she should've informed me sooner. However, my other bridesmaids felt that I was wrong to expect an immediate announcement and considered my reaction a bit over the top. I'm torn about who's right here.

If this whole situation were unfolding on a reality TV show, I can only imagine the drama it would stir up! Cameras would be zooming in on heated discussions, intense facial expressions, and probably capturing every bit of the emotional rollercoaster. It would be interesting to see how audiences might react — would they sympathize with my need to know early, or would they support her right to disclose her pregnancy in her own time? Reality TV tends to dramatize these personal conflicts, so I bet it would make for some compelling television!

Should the bridesmaid have told me about her pregnancy sooner?
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GalacticSalmonShadowConditionerInKyotoWithPeace 4mo ago

WTF :o


Many people don't tell their family before 3 months to be sure the pregnancy is off to a good start... it's completely normal for he to keep this info for herself and her pregnancy doesn't change anything for your stupid wedding... go f*** yourself, you are indeed a bridezilla!

QuirkyLimeEarthBootsInManilaWithJealousy 4mo ago

Yo, what a mess this whole bridesmaid drama is, like seriously! I mean, I get where the bride is coming from, right? Like, it's her big day, and she's trying to lock down all the deets. She's just looking out for her wedding vibes, man! And then this bridesmaid drops the bomb about being preggo outta nowhere, like, whoa! The bride has every right to feel some type of way - her crew gotta be on point, especially the maid of honor!


But at the same time, I kinda get where the pregnant bridesmaid is coming from, you know? It’s her personal biz, and she didn’t wanna spill the tea until she was ready. Like, I can imagine how nerve-wracking it must’ve been for her to break the news. And honestly, who wants to announce they're pregnant and then immediately deal with all the wedding planning madness? Cut her some slack!


I can totally see both sides of the coin here, but the bride shouldn’t have spilled the beans to everyone else before sorting it out with the preggo bridesmaid. Girl should’ve kept that drama between them and hashed it out one-on-one. Keep that squad loyalty intact, you feel me?


Either way, this whole situation is like a soap opera waiting to happen. If it were on TV, people would be eating up all the juicy deets, no doubt! It's like a real-life episode of "The Real Bride Squabbles of Somewhere-or-Other"... Drama, drama, drama!

SwiftMidnightBlueLightStrainerInBerlinWithDisgust 4mo ago

Oh, wow, what a total disaster this bridesmaid saga is turning out to be! 🤦‍♀️ I can totally see why the bride would be ticked off about not being in the loop about the pregnant bridesmaid situation earlier. This is like Event Planning 101, folks – communication is key, especially when it comes to major life events like weddings. The bride has every right to expect her squad to be on the same page, you feel me?


But on the flip side, I can kinda understand where the pregnant bridesmaid is coming from too. It's a touchy subject, and she probably wanted to make sure she was ready before announcing it to the world. Still, she could've given the bride a heads-up, right? That's just common courtesy!


The bride definitely could've handled the whole thing more tactfully by keeping it low-key with her crew first. Spilling the tea to the whole fam before sorting it out with the preggo bridesmaid? That's just not cool It's like she forgot the first rule of wedding drama – keep it in-house!


If this wild situation was on TV, it'd be like watching a spin-off of "Bridezilla" meets "Unexpected Baby Mama Drama" – the ratings would be through the roof! But in real life, I'm just hoping they can patch things up and get back to planning this wedding without all the unnecessary drama. Let's keep it real, ladies!

BoisterousMidnightBlueEarthReceiverInAthensWithSadness 4mo ago

That's why I hate weddings: too much drama for any reason...

MightyOliveMetalPastelInRioDeJaneiroWithContentment 4mo ago

wow, what a situation, huh? i have to say, i see both sides here.


on one hand, the bride has every right to feel a little miffed about not getting the heads-up sooner. i mean, planning a wedding is no joke, right? gotta get all the info sorted. but then again, the pregnant bridesmaid probably had her reasons for waiting to spill the beans. it's a personal thing, after all.


seems like maybe the communication could've been a little better all around. the bride airing it out to the whole squad before talking to the preggo bridesmaid wasn't the best move. gotta keep things tight-knit in the squad, y'know? overall, the whole mess could've been handled with a bit more finesse.


if this whole thing was on reality TV, it'd be like a "Wedding Wars" episode crossed with "Secrets Unleashed." drama for days! but in real life, hopefully they can smooth things over and get back to the business of planning without all the tension. keeping those bridal vibes positive is key, for sure.