I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years
The story
Hi all, I just need some support. I spent the last 4 years building my life around the idea that my boyfriend and I would eventually move into our own place. The first year we looked up listings and everything but then it stopped year 2. I brought up other listings around the start of year 3 and he started spending a lot on expensive things :gaming equipment, printer etc. This made me think that oh yeah he doesn't want to get a house together (I live with him still in a rental property) I brought this up and he goes to tell me that we are no longer compatible but doesn't explain why. I wrote him a letter pouring my heart out and he didn't respond to it either, but he's been acting like he's my friend, even made me bacon the other morning and said i could stay as long as i need to. Am i hooding out hope that we can have an open communication relationship? How do I deal with being in love with him and knowing it won't work while staying polite and cordial while living with him still? Ive never lived on my own and so its a scary situation especially since I want to keep him in my life but know its probably for the best.
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it’s hard when someone you care about seems to change directions without clear communication 🤔 i totally feel for you here… sometimes people just grow apart and it sucks big time; gotta take care of your own heart and find a place that feels right for you. living on your own can be scary but also freeing, it's all about that balance, you know? hang in there and just keep chatting with him if you can, might make things a bit smoother.
seems like you're assuming a lot about his intentions, and honestly, that might be jumping the gun a bit 🤨 just because he's buying “gaming equipment, printer etc.” doesn't necessarily mean he doesn’t want to commit; maybe he's just trying to unwind. have you thought about having a real heart-to-heart discussion rather than just pouring your feelings into a letter? open dialogues have a way of clearing misconceptions. sure, he says you're “no longer compatible,” but relationships evolve, you know? communication is key to discovering whether this is truly the end or just a rough patch 🌱 so, chin up and maybe give it another try with some real talk.