Moving Out or Moving On? My Partner's Last-Minute Change
The story
My partner, who's 27, has been living alone in his apartment for around two years now. I am 26, and we've been together for about three years. During this time, I've been staying with my parents. Gradually, I started hinting at the possibility of us moving in together. Despite my hints and even outright discussions about possibly sharing a bigger space and splitting the rent - I usually stay at his place up to five days a week - he never seemed to take the bait and would swiftly change the subject.
Recently, things took a different turn. After many conversations and no definitive response from him, I decided to look for my own place. Before I started my search, I casually asked if he would be upset if I found my own apartment, to which he nonchalantly shrugged it off. When I finally found a great apartment, I sent him the link and even mentioned my upcoming tour. It was only after I affirmed my decision to lease the apartment did he suddenly express his desire for us to live together, apologizing for not bringing it up sooner and insisting that we could make room for me at his place. However, by then, I had to give the landlord an immediate response. His sudden change of heart left me feeling both hurt and frustrated due to his lack of communication despite my numerous attempts. In the end, I chose to proceed with my own apartment, and now, we continue to live separately.
It's all rather bewildering. I'm feeling quite perplexed about the whole thing. Did I act unreasonably by choosing to get my own apartment?
Imagine if this whole situation unfolded on a reality show. Viewers would likely be on the edge of their seats, split in their opinions. Some might cheer for my independence and decision to move forward on my own terms after being seemingly ignored. Others might sympathize with my boyfriend, speculating that he might have been dealing with his own reservations or uncertainties about cohabitation, which he communicated too late. The reactions would be varied, with dramatic music swelling as each of us explained our sides to the camera, culminating perhaps in a heartfelt or heated confrontation that raked in record viewership for the show!
How should I feel about getting my own place?
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feeling hurt is valid but maybe overreacted with getting a new place :o keep it cool and chat more 🤝 things ain't always how they seem
Man, what a mess!!! 🤦♂️ I totally get you! Like who has time for this nonsense??? 🚫 dude shoulda communicated better.. seriously!!! 📢 ya did what you had to do moving out is a power move 💪 reminds me of the time I waited on my ex like forever and still got nothing!!!!!! 😤 his bad if he couldn't make up his mind!!!!! ya got the right to your own space no regrets!!!! 🌟
Well, I think you were very patient and right to take your accommodation!
sounds like quite the situation; totally get where you're coming from though. "communication is key," right? your partner missed the memo there. seems like your call to find your own place is fair game. it's puzzling when someone changes their tune at the last minute??? gotta respect your choice to secure your independence!!!! but maybe consider having one more open talk about how you both feel. could clear the air and set expectations straight. wishing you both the best as you navigate this next chapter.
honestly dude feels like ya jumped into getting your own place way too fast like seriously why rush all that? can't tell ya how many times i've been in the same situation had to learn the hard way that communication takes time and effort just gotta give him a break maybe had stuff going on that he didn't say and i get being frustrated but sometimes ya just gotta chill and let things play out my partner and i had this huge fight and i thought it was over but we talked it out and now we’re stronger than ever hang in there it might just work out for the best 🤞
sounds like a tough spot, ya know? 😕 i really feel you did what made sense after all that waiting because who wants to hang around forever, right? my buddy was in a similar boat and had to make a call for his own sanity. it's unfortunate your partner only spoke up last minute like coulda saved both of you the hassle. maybe they were dealing with stuff they didn't share, who knows? kind of a bummer it got to this point, hope it all works out in the end for you both. 🤞