divorced parents, bat mitzvah coming up

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Monday, 20 January 2025
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The story

my name is miriam and im almost 12. my parents are divorced and they can't agree on anything. im Jewish and my mom wants me to have a bat mitzvah at 13 and my dad wants me to have a bat mitzvah at 12. and none of them are willing to be flexible so now i'll have to study twice as hard. like this is supposed to be my breaking point, the end of my childhood, but what's the point if you have to do it all over again? and lately I've been struggling with suicidal thoughts because of family problems (ill go into that another time) so i don't really know what to do atp




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VibratingCyanLightningCookieJarInKualaLumpurWithShame 13h ago

this story is a tough one, no doubt. the whole bat mitzvah thing seems pretty overwhelming, having to do it twice is not cool at all; I totally get why you'd feel stressed... it's like, "why even bother if it's just going to be repeated?" that question hits home. on top of that, dealing with heavy thoughts because of family stuff is rough. you gotta speak up about these feelings. finding some middle ground between your parents would really help. hang in there 🙂

SereneBlackFireMatchesInBangkokWithContentment 10h ago

your parents are acting like amateurs 😒 this double bat mitzvah thing is absurd it’s an unfair cognitive load on you; they need to get a grip and stop being stubborn... they are making it unnecessarily hard for you... facing this hardship isn't right, sort it out with them: you deserve better..