My mother giving my father fault for my issues
The story
I have a skin picking disorder where I generally tend to pick on my lips often till they’re bloody and raw. It’s an habit I have since I can remember. It must’ve started when I was around two to three years old. I am now 17. With that it’s deeply ingrained within me and I am quite used to it. I often do it when I am bored, sitting still, stressed, need to concentrate or nervous. I have ADHD and with that it’s often also a way to stimulate myself, especially during school. I try to break the habit but it’s quite difficult with me either not noticing it when I do or the compulsion to do it being too strong.
Well now to what happened. On the weekend I was on a trip with my father. Apparently in the evening when we came back my lips looked pretty bloody and my mother asked why I picked on them so much again. I told her it’s mostly because I was bored in the car. It was because of that and I also studied, meaning I didn’t really noticed it while I was concentrating on my work. My father now told me that my mother gave him on Monday an entire speech about how it’s bad and that it was during the trip I was with him on. But generally it isn’t his fault. I know it’s mine. It’s my habit. It’s also a daily habit meaning he didn’t make me fall back into it or anything. He now asked me to try and stop but the problem is it isn’t that easy for me. I do want to but it’s difficult. I am not sure what do. I am also not sure whether I should ask my mother about why she decided to complain to my father about it when he didn’t actually have to do anything with it.
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hey, i totally feel for you with the skin picking thing. it's such a tough habit to manage especially when it’s been around for so long; sometimes people just don’t get how difficult it is to stop even if we want to 😬 maybe your mom is worried and that’s why she talked to your dad. could be worth having a chat with her about her concerns? in my experience, open conversations can sometimes help others understand what we're going through; keep at it, and remember it's okay to take small steps ❤️
I can see how frustrating this must be for you, especially when you're aware of the habit but feel a bit stuck in it; your parents might just be trying to help, even if it doesn't always seem that way…
oh man, i get where you're coming from with the lip picking. it’s like your hands have a mind of their own when you're lost in thought or trying to focus, right? reminds me of my own habit of biting my nails whenever i'm stressed out. honestly, families sometimes just wanna help but don't realize how hard these kinds of habits are to kick 😅 maybe your mom brought it up because she’s genuinely concerned and doesn’t know how else to express it. i've found that explaining your point of view can sometimes bridge the gap—it might ease things if you share what you're comfortable with about why it's such a struggle and how her approach affects you. good luck!
Yo, I feel you on that struggle; dealing with habits like skin picking is tough! 🤔 It's so frustrating when people think it's just a matter of "stopping," but anyone who's been there knows it's not that simple. Maybe you could try keeping your hands busy with something else? Like a fidget toy or even doodling if you’re into it—worked for me when I was trying to quit nail biting. Also, talking to your mom might help clear the air; maybe she doesn't get how hard it is and just needs some perspective. Stay strong, you've got this! 😊
i can understand the struggle with overcoming a habit that's been part of your life for so long; it's like trying to rewire deeply ingrained neural pathways. while it seems your parents are emphasizing the negative, their intentions might be driven by concern. perhaps setting small, achievable goals could help in managing this behavior? i've found that breaking tasks into smaller components often makes things more manageable; celebrating even minor progress can be encouraging 🌱
that's rough, dude. sounds like a classic case of your brain doing its own thing while you're on autopilot 🤔 your mom might be thinking she's helping by talking to your dad, even if it feels kinda off. maybe having a chill convo with both of them about how you feel could help clear things up? stay strong 💪
having dealt with similar habits myself, i totally understand the complexity of breaking them, especially when they serve as a coping mechanism for stress or boredom; perhaps developing alternative methods to manage your stress and engage your mind during idle moments could gradually lessen your reliance on lip picking—something like a fidget toy or even mindful breathing has helped me in similar situations.
man, that sounds really rough. i get why you're feeling a bit frustrated about your mom talking to your dad; wouldn't it be better for her to just talk to you first? it's like everyone wants a piece of the action but don’t know how tough it is to change something that's been with you forever!!! thinking maybe some fidget toys or a stress ball could help keep your hands busy when you start feeling that urge❓ sometimes redirecting the habit can make a big difference. give yourself credit for being aware and even trying to tackle it—small victories count too;
oh wow, i can totally relate to the struggle of trying to break a habit that's been embedded in your life for years; it's like trying to untangle a web that seems endlessly complicated!
hey, sounds like you've got a lot on your plate with the skin picking and everything else 🥺 it's not just about stopping…it’s like an itch you can't scratch in any other way. have you tried mindfulness or grounding techniques? sometimes directing focus away from the compulsion helps; my cousin dealt with something similar by keeping a stress ball handy to redirect that energy. i think it might help to chat with your mom about how you're feeling, maybe she'll understand better if she hears it directly from you 👌 hang in there, progress is still progress!
It's tough dealing with ingrained habits like that, especially when it's something you've done since you were so young; have you ever tried talking to a therapist about strategies that might help you manage it better and maybe get your parents involved in the process?
Dealing with a habit that's practically part of you is no small feat, especially when it feels like a constant battle between your mind and body. 😩 It's tough when parents don't fully get the struggle, but they might just be worried. If you're up for it, talking openly with them could shed some light on how challenging this is for you. Finding different ways to keep your hands busy or even setting tiny goals could help shift focus bit by bit. You've got strength in you, and taking small steps can lead to big changes over time! 💪
Honestly, it feels like your mom is kinda overreacting by dragging your dad into this when you're clearly aware of the issue yourself. Sure, it's great they're concerned, but piling more pressure on you isn't helping anyone. Maybe try setting boundaries with her and let her know how that makes you feel?? it's important they understand it's not just a switch you can flick off. Stay real and tackle it at your own pace!
dude, dealing with that kind of ingrained habit is no joke!!! it's frustrating when people don't get how deeply embedded it can be; like telling a fish to stop swimming, ya know?!! your mom might just be worried and not know the best way to show it, but hey, maybe it's worth chatting with her directly so she gets where you're coming from. also, have you considered seeking some guidance on managing the compulsion alongside ADHD symptoms?? could be helpful to get some tailored strategies in place; you never know until you try! fingers crossed for ya 🤞
wow, that's really challenging; i can see why it's hard managing the skin picking when it feels almost second nature. you know, cognitive behavioral therapy has been helpful for some people in addressing compulsive behaviors like this. maybe exploring that avenue could offer some tricks and tools to manage it better? 😄 it's great that you're open about your habits! that's already a positive step; maybe discussing things openly with both your parents could give them a clearer understanding of what you're going through and how they can support you without pointing fingers. remember, progress is a journey, not a destination… every little bit helps!
sounds like you've been dealing with this habit for a long time, and it's understandable that it's not easy to just stop on command; maybe instead of focusing solely on breaking the habit, it could help to explore what underlying feelings or situations trigger the urge more deeply? sometimes understanding those triggers can make managing the compulsion slightly more doable. also, maybe your mom vented to your dad out of concern, albeit a bit misdirected; having an open conversation with her about how these discussions affect you might be useful in getting everyone on the same page.