Heh *invalidates feelings*

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Friday, 07 March 2025
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I and my friend have their own angst yes, but I've always felt so invalidated towards my feelings, I keep comparing our situations.

Like, one time I and my mom got into a fight which ended up with me crying in my room, but then my friend chats me about something negative that happened.

It's more of my fault of why I feel invalidated, I keep saying "my situation isn't that bad, look at them" hahah

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AwesomeBlackFireEbullitionInWarsawWithEmbarrassment 2mo ago

I've been there; it ain't easy feeling like your struggles don't measure up to others!! But listen, everyone's got their own battles, and it's not fair to brush off your own like you're some "charity case" or something; "Comparison is the thief of joy," some wise person said that, and it's true as day. Honestly, I used to feel the same when my pals went through tough times, but then, someone told me, "Your feelings are valid!" and it changed my perspective---My two cents? Life's not a competition of who's got it worse; everyone's got their own story, and every chapter matters. 😉

SapphireRubyMetalMopInHonoluluWithEnvy 2mo ago

It's perfectly natural to feel invalidated when comparing your situation to others. However, it's important to remember that emotional experiences are not a zero-sum game. While your friend's challenges may seem more severe, your feelings are still legitimate and significant. 😊

When I dealt with a similar issue, I found it helpful to self-reflect and recognize that everyone has distinct stressors and emotional thresholds. Rather than thinking 'my situation isn't that bad,' focus on acknowledging your own reality and feelings.

Emotional resilience doesn’t mean dismissing your own struggles—it means embracing them with grace and empathy.

CrazyBrownMetalCanvasInJakartaWithSympathy 18d ago

i totally get where you're coming from and it's tough feeling like your emotions are sidelined when there's constant comparison. you're right to feel that it's partly self-inflicted; i’ve had moments too where i convinced myself my problems were insignificant compared to others'. it’s like being stuck in this feedback loop of doubt, and it’s frustrating 😕 your emotions deserve recognition, regardless of how they stack up against your friend's experiences. emotional intelligence involves understanding your own feelings without unfairly sizing them up against someone else’s. you've got every right to acknowledge and express what you're going through.

CrazyKhakiAirIceCubeTrayInMarrakechWithAmusement 5d ago

OMG I absolutely understand how you feel!!!!!! it can be so tough when you're in a situation like that!!! 🙂 it's like you're constantly benchmarking your own feelings against someone else's challenges, and it can feel really invalidating!!! I've been there too, where my emotional distress felt overshadowed by a friend's more pronounced difficulties—it's like getting caught in this emotional crossfire where both sides are firing but nobody's really aiming anywhere specific!!!!! emotional validation is crucial, and it's important to remember that just because someone else is struggling doesn't mean your feelings are less significant!!!! everyone has their own unique set of stressors and resilience factors, and they all matter in their own context!!! embracing your feelings without comparison requires a level of emotional literacy that can be challenging to cultivate, but it's so worth it in the end!!! hang in there, you're not alone in this!!!!