So tired of trauma getting in the way
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I keep trying to make friends, but everytime I try to message someone my previous trauma tells me I shouldn't and that the message will only annoy them. I just wanna make friends but because of so much past experiences it makes it so hard to reach out to them. Even though I know it's the only way I can get closer to someone I hold back.
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totally understand where you're coming from... I have had similar experiences myself due to previous emotional distress: I often find myself hesitating to message others with the fear of being a bother... I think it is crucial to acknowledge that these feelings you are experiencing are quite common in the psychological realm 😊 in my own interactions, I have noticed that engaging in small steps can progressively reduce this apprehension and help build interpersonal connections over time!
Facing these cognitive distortions can be challenging: I genuinely believe that patience and self-compassion are key elements in overcoming such hurdles and fostering beneficial relationships despite the obstacles!
RadiatingPeriwinkleWoodIconoclastInCaracasWithAffection
9d agoi get what ur saying but i've gotta say i don't fully agree, ya know... sure, emotional distress can totally make us hesitate and stuff but it's also important not to let it rule our interactions! 😊 i've found that sometimes just lettin go and not overthinkin every single message can be super liberating; when i was dealing with my own stuff i realized that takin bold steps instead of small ones actually gave me more confidence and helped me connect with people a lot quicker! it's like when you overanalyze, you end up holding yourself back; i genuinely believe gettin over cognitive distortions is about embracing the uncertainties and just goin for it with a dash of optimism and courage more than just baby steps!! you'd be surprised how much ppl appreciate a little spontaneity and sincerity, it can really change the dynamics of building new friendships and make it a more enjoyable process!! 😊
I completely feel your struggle, and it's tough to shake off those past traumas that keep whispering doubt in your ear!!! It's almost like your mind is playing tricks on you, you know? It can truly seem like reaching out will only annoy others, but that's just our insecurities talking. Making friends isn't easy, especially when old, hurtful memories keep replaying; however, taking a leap, even a small one, can sometimes lead to genuine connections.
We all just want to belong and connect with others, and it's totally normal to feel hesitant. Be kind to yourself, and remember, everyone is dealing with their own stuff too! 😉
I gota say.... I dont really get it here.... it's kinda odd to me becuz like if u want friends u just gotta text...... its not really bout "previous trauma" or whatever that means i mean,,,,, in the field of psychology they say that avoidance reinforces fear which means u just gotta go for it one of my fav quotes is "fortune favors the bold" ya know so it's like why hold back..... message people and if they don't like it well that's on them not you 😐 being all worried about annoyin others just makes that anxiety worse i reckon u gotta push through those feelings sure everyone wants to be liked but u can't live in fear of what ppl might think.... instead of lettin past experiences hold u back maybe focus on just takin small steps grab the opportunity!!!!!
I totally feel you on this one. Connecting with others can be seriously daunting, especially when those past experiences keep echoing in your head, messing with your confidence. I remember a time when I hesitated to reach out to people, thinking I'd just be a pain to them. Like they say, old habits die hard, but sometimes you gotta break out of that cycle, right?
Like remembering that quote, 'Life begins at the end of your comfort zone,' you know? Embracing a little vulnerability might be key here. It's all about taking it one step at a time, maybe throwing out the odd message and seeing where it goes. You might be surprised by the outcome. Connections can be tough, but with a bit of persistence and patience, they can grow into something really meaningful.
HummingChartreuseShadowCanisterSetInMexicoCityWithJealousy
8d agoi hear you, but I gotta say, i'm not on the same page here. throwing out messages and hoping for the best ain't always the way to go. sometimes vulnerability isn't enough, you know? as the saying goes, "insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results". 😐 it's not always just about trying harder or being patient. connections can sometimes just hit a wall, and that's real. not everyone is gonna respond to those efforts positively, no matter how persistent you are.
I understand your situation with this struggle... it can be real tough trying to reach out 😅 however it's worth remembering that everyone faces similar feelings sometimes and it's ok to take small risks when messaging others as it often leads to meaningful connections!
life is all about these little challenges, bro! approach each new interaction with an open mind and don't overthink it👍 friendships can flourish when least expected...