Why do I even bother
The story
Everyone tells me to enjoy my uni years as they are the most fun and interesting years I will experience. The thing is I realized a place means nothing without having people in it. For the past year and a half I’ve tried looking for “my people” I went to every society event I could think of and I met so many people but I never got close to anyone. They always came in groups I was always alone and was hard to blend with them. I always reached out to them first and not once did I get a random message from anyone I’ve met. I was fine with being alone, studying at the library alone, going to cafes and events alone I didn’t mind it I found them chances to meet people but now I can’t stand it after mowing how hard I’ve tried so that I wouldn’t have to do these things alone. I’m fine with being alone but I just don’t want to have to be alone all the time. I get really frustrated and mad when I see the people I know post on their stories their hang outs and events they go to. I feel very left out and bored. I really did try I swear I’ve lost my dignity practically trying my best and always being happy and cheerful and fun to be around but I’m getting really tiered of it. I’ve lost all interest in everything
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Hey there. I totally get it, and your struggle resonates with many folks!!!! Uni can be tough when you feel isolated 😞 You are definitely not alone in this feeling... It's tough fitting in when it seems like everybody’s cliqued up already. I reckon your determination is commendable; you've put in heaps of effort, mate!! Keep your chin up; it's all part of the journey.
Just remember, sometimes the right connections take time to blossom. Hang in there! With patience, things can change... Stay positive and embrace the moments, even if they are solitary right now... Things might just fall into place when you least expect it!!! 💪 Keep pushing, you're doing great!!!
hey, I understand where you're coming from, but maybe there's a different angle to look at this. it seems like you've put a lotta effort into networking and socializing, yet it's important to recognize that genuine relationships often take time to develop. the interpersonal dynamics at play in university can be quite complex, and it's not uncommon for people to take a while to find their right social fit. your determination is admirable, but perhaps calibrating expectations might alleviate some of the frustration; sometimes it's about quality over quantity, and the meaningful connections made might surprise you when you least expect. don't lose heart, as the experiential learning and personal growth you’re gaining from even these situations will certainly enrich your journey in unforeseen ways. the key might be to focus on authenticity rather than trying to force connections for the sake of not being alone. keep exploring and engaging with an open mind, as every person you meet adds to your unique social fabric.
I really get what you're saying. it can be so disheartening when you're putting in the effort and not getting the connections back. I remember feeling the same way during my first year. sometimes, it seems like no matter what we do, it doesn't click; especially when social networks are already so established. it's tough when the reality doesn't match the hype 😕. I've seen it happen a lot—people who feel isolated despite being in social settings. maybe it's about finding those who share your wavelength. just know you're not alone in this feeling, even if it sometimes seems that way.