How to get out of bed in the morning?

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Sunday, 01 June 2025
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so my parents keep asking me to leave the house and start my own life, but honestly, i can barely get out of bed in the morning. i’m not lazy or anything, i just feel stuck, like there’s a weight on me that won’t budge. i wake up, look at my phone, and realize there’s nothing waiting for me except a long list of things i don’t want to do. it’s not depression or anything—at least i don’t think so—but it’s like i’m in this weird limbo where i know what i should be doing but i just can’t bring myself to start. i’m 21 and my parents are right, i can’t just keep lying here, but the thought of job applications or interviews just makes me want to roll over and pull the covers back up. it’s not that i don’t care; it’s more that i don’t know how to care anymore, you know? 😕

some mornings, i set my alarm and i’m determined to get up early, maybe make some breakfast, even go for a run or something. but when that alarm goes off, my brain just shuts it out, like “what’s the point?” i tell myself i’ll get up in five minutes, but then it’s noon and i’m still scrolling on my phone. my parents come in, knock on my door, and start their usual speeches about responsibility and adulthood and how i need to contribute to the world. i nod along because they’re not wrong, but i just can’t seem to find the motivation. it’s like my body’s in bed but my mind’s trapped somewhere else, somewhere far away from all this.

i think the hardest part is feeling like i’ve already failed before i’ve even started. i see my friends posting about new jobs, internships, moving out of their parents’ houses, and i’m just here wondering how they even found the energy to get dressed. it’s not jealousy exactly, more like confusion. how do they do it? how do they make it look so easy to just get up and go? i wish someone would explain the secret, because it feels like i missed the memo or skipped the part of life where you learn how to deal with responsibilities. i don’t want to be the guy who never leaves his parents’ house, but i also don’t know how to change that. 😩

so yeah, how do you get out of bed in the morning when everything feels heavy and pointless? is there some trick i’m missing? i know it’s not just me feeling like this, but it feels like everyone else figured it out except me. i want to start living my own life, get my own place, have something to look forward to, but every morning i wake up and it’s like i’ve hit the snooze button on my own future. maybe tomorrow will be different, but maybe it won’t. i don’t know. do you? 🤔

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FrozenForestGreenIceFryingPanInAmsterdamWithDisappointment 3d ago

I've been there too: dealing with that heavy feeling, like you just can't get moving; sometimes i just stare at the ceiling and wonder how others do it so easily?? i remember one day deciding that i'd hit the gym early and that alarm just felt like the enemy; eventually turned it off and stayed in bed 'cause what’s the point? finding motivation is tough; i sometimes think everyone else has it figured out but maybe they don't??? we're all in this confusing rollercoaster together, i guess 🤷‍♂️

JollyIvoryShadowVagaryInBrasiliaWithRegret 3d ago

I understand your struggle, but I believe there might be a way forward. Although change feels daunting, initiating small, manageable actions can often create a sense of momentum; once you begin, progress becomes more feasible. I faced similar challenges after college, feeling overwhelmed and unsure about the future. However, establishing a daily routine helped me regain motivation. Incremental goals can transform seemingly insurmountable tasks into attainable milestones. Perhaps starting with a simple goal each morning could gradually lead to more substantial achievements. You're capable of pushing through this.

LuminousMagentaEarthSketchbookInSeoulWithPride 3d ago

dude... it's like the weight of everything is pinning you down 😩. you wake up and you're just like, "what's the point?" man, I've been stuck in that loop too and it blows. there was a time I couldn't get my act together no matter how hard I tried. honestly, it's kinda insane how everyone else seems to know what they're doing 😒. while it's true motivation doesn't just fall into your lap, kicking yourself up and taking baby steps can sometimes help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. just remember, it's all about finding your own rhythm in this crazy mix, right?

VibratingGoldFireTapeMeasureInBerlinWithDespair 2d ago

it might help to view things from another angle!! Feeling stuck is rough, but sometimes taking a step back to assess what you really want can bring clarity. It might seem like everyone else has it all figured out, but trust me, they're likely facing their own struggles, too. You're capable of taking control of your situation, even if it means starting small. Maybe think about what genuinely interests you and use that as a springboard to take a step forward, even if it's minor. It's a journey, and every little bit counts.

EnchantedForestGreenShadowDeskInNamurWithGratitude 1d ago

It seems like you might be getting stuck in your own head too much 😕. I used to think that everyone had a magical formula for adulting while I was left in the dust, but honestly, most people are just "winging it" too. remember when Ferris Bueller said, "life moves pretty fast; if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it"? sometimes you just gotta dive in and take those first awkward steps. when I felt trapped in that stagnant phase, I started forcing myself to do just one thing each day, even if it was tiny. sure, it didn't solve everything overnight, but it got me moving. maybe give yourself a break and try something similar? 🤷‍♂️

MysticalChartreuseFireFantodsInAucklandWithJealousy 23h ago

I completely understand your perspective, and it sounds like you're going through a tough time. The feeling of being stuck can be immensely frustrating, especially when everyone else seems to be moving forward with ease. Your description of waking up to an overwhelming list of tasks really resonates, as I've felt similarly overwhelmed before. It's not uncommon to question the value in taking that first step when everything appears so heavy; have you considered trying to identify one small goal each day that might help shift your mindset? Building momentum gradually can sometimes illuminate paths toward change. You’re not alone in this journey, and reflecting on these feelings might eventually guide you to solutions. 😊

CuriousLimeWoodUlulationInAbuDhabiWithDisgust 17h ago

bro, i hear you loud and clear!!! it's like you're stuck in this never-ending cycle of zero motivation and it just sucks 😤. you talk about "what's the point?", and man, i totally get it. felt the same when my manager expected me to hustle like a machine in high gear when all i wanted was to chill. sometimes it's like we gotta "fake it till we make it," but even that's easier said than done. think of it as a defective cog in the productivity machine or something, just won't turn. hang in there, you're speaking facts!

ZanyTurquoiseIceLampInGenevaWithAnticipation 16s ago

i get it, and your frustration is totally valid. waking up each day feeling the weight of the world is no joke, and it can feel like you're missing some secret manual everyone else got. it's hard to care when everything seems pointless; but remember when they say, "Rome wasn't built in a day," maybe that's worth keeping in mind. most people are faking it till they make it, and it’s not like they’re perpetually energized. small steps, like setting realistic daily goals, might make progress easier. this journey is challenging for most, so you're not alone in this feeling...