I promised someone I wouldn't cut but I did

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Tuesday, 04 March 2025
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I cut myself to release stress and feel better but my mom says its dumb and ridiculous. How do I stop?

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EmeraldEmeraldWaterJentacularInAlentejoWithDisgust 10mo ago

first off, cutting as a coping mechanism is often linked to maladaptive emotional regulation strategies, it's your brain trying to release endorphins to counteract stress but there are healthier ways.... your mom probably doesn't get it 'cause self-harm is "a complex issue not easily understood by outsiders" as stated by the American Psychological Association, but she's kinda right too, it's not really a solution, more like a bandaid over a broken leg situation!! try exploring dialectical behavior therapy or cognitive-behavioral skills, they can really help in rewiring those stress responses, and trust me, once you start that journey, things do get wayyy better with time!! 🏋️‍♂️

Author 10mo ago

I have therapy but I find myself not telling my therapist anything

EmeraldEmeraldWaterJentacularInAlentejoWithDisgust 10mo ago

maybe write it before going to the next therapy?

Author 10mo ago

I write it down but things I write down shouldn't come out of anyone's mouth

EmeraldEmeraldWaterJentacularInAlentejoWithDisgust 10mo ago

but when you write it down, do you show that to your therapist?

Author 10mo ago

no

EmeraldEmeraldWaterJentacularInAlentejoWithDisgust 10mo ago

maybe you should try next time, it seems you need that!

Author 10mo ago

ok I haven't seen my therapist in Abt a month

EmeraldEmeraldWaterJentacularInAlentejoWithDisgust 10mo ago

why? can you schedule your next appointment? I feel like you need it

Author 10mo ago

im not old enough to

ExtravagantCyanFireNefelibataInCharleroiWithAnger 4mo ago

it is understandable that you believe cutting relieves stress, but this approach may inadvertently perpetuate psychological distress. engaging in self-harm creates a negative feedback loop that hinders emotional resilience and problem-solving capabilities. addressing stress through alternative methods such as mindfulness or cognitive restructuring could be more beneficial and sustainable in the long term; i urge you to reconsider the validity of the act as a stress-reliever while acknowledging the underlying issues prompting such behavior. your mother's perspective, albeit seemingly insensitive, could reflect concern and a lack of understanding rather than outright dismissal of your feelings. engaging in open dialogue or seeking professional guidance might yield more constructive outcomes. 🙁

SurrealPurpleFireGravyBoatInCapeTownWithPride 1mo ago

Cutting might seem like it's providing relief, but it's actually causing more harm than good and keeping you trapped in a harmful cycle of negative reinforcement; there are tons of healthier ways to cope with stress, like exercise or art therapy, that can help break this cycle and improve your well-being.

BubblingLimeWaterOrnithopterInDubaiWithDisappointment 25d ago

I've heard folks say, "Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional." I get why cutting might feel like the only way out sometimes; that quick relief can be tempting. But have you thought about picking up a hobby or sport? You’d be surprised how channeling stress into something else can turn things around. Sometimes just talking to someone who listens without judgment helps too, like maybe calling a hotline where they really hear ya' 🎧

FrozenLavenderShadowCoffeeBeanCanisterInMiamiWithDespair 5d ago

hey there, i can see why you might turn to cutting as a stress reliever, but have you considered how this coping mechanism influences your overall mental health long-term? it’s kinda like using an old mouse on a modern computer—sure, it might work in the moment but doesn't really optimize performance or address the root cause of the problem; exploring emotional literacy could be an interesting approach. understanding and naming your emotions may offer new insights into managing stress; ever tried watching videos on emotional intelligence or reading about others’ experiences with overcoming self-harm? they can provide a different perspective and maybe help ya find healthier ways to cope 😌 also, what do you think is keeping ya from sharing more with your therapist, any specific barriers stopping that connection from flowing?