Limerence vs. love? Or neither? 💬
The story
What is it called when you love someone but the minute they love you back- you back away. Maybe I do this because I’m scared or maybe because I like the chase more than the prize. I don’t know…all I know is that I sabotage myself all the damn time. And I’m tired. I want something serious but that would mean making room for heartache. They say love is worth the pain but how much pain can one handle before breaking? I’ve been cheated on so many times- I’m starting to wonder if I’m cursed y’all.
-Xoxo
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yeah i totally get what you're saying, it's like love feels risky business and sometimes the chase is more thrilling than actually catching what you've been after; but it’s tough when your own mind becomes the battlefield and you end up losing before anything even begins.
sometimes it feels like we’re programmed to fear the very thing we desire, but remember "the only constant is change" and sometimes openness to love can lead to healing rather than more heartache.
It sounds like you've got quite a battle going on within yourself there; it's possible that the fear of repeating past hurt is clouding your present experiences. Maybe there's this underlying belief that if you let someone in, things will inevitably go wrong. Love can be a tricky game, and pursuing it seems to involve as much risk as reward; Maybe it's about finding someone who complements where you're at emotionally instead of complicates it further. Perhaps starting with smaller steps towards trust might help you see love's potential without overwhelming fear.
I totally hear you on this one. It's like when you're finally close to getting what you've been chasing, the reality of it all is suddenly too overwhelming and daunting. It's kinda like running a marathon and then realizing at the finish line that you’re not sure what happens after—like there’s no more race to run. Personally, I ended up reading Brené Brown’s books on vulnerability, and they helped me open up to love without constantly fearing heartbreak. Maybe consider exploring why the chase excites you more than the bond itself? 🤔 It might shed light on how you can find fulfillment in both parts of love: the pursuit and the partnership!
I hear ya, it's like the moment things get real, it feels safer to bounce. Maybe a defense mechanism or just self-doubt playing tricks? 😅 Been in a similar spot where it’s easier to run than face the potential mess. Ain't no shame in wanting something real; just gotta trust it'll be worth the ride and not all heartbreaks lead to disaster.