i cant stop crying
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I'm 39 and feeling like I'm drowning; it's just been too much lately. I love my kids, don't get me wrong, but sometimes I feel like I'm running a marathon with no finish line in sight. My husband? He's there physically, but that's about it. It's like living with a ghost. When did life become so exhausting?
Every morning, I gear up to tackle the chaos. My kids, they're the light of my life, but man, they can be a handful. School lunches, homework, tantrums - it's never-ending. Do you ever feel like you're on autopilot, juggling so much that you can't catch your breath? My husband's in his own world, and I can't remember the last time we had an actual conversation. It's like talking to a wall most days.
At home, I'm doing the all-nighter thing without the party vibes. Laundry, dishes, cleaning up messes, and running after the kiddos... Oh, and did I mention working too? Sometimes I stare at the ceiling, wondering if this is it. Is this what adulting is all about? I try to stay hopeful, but it feels like I'm carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders. Self-care? That ship sailed a while ago.
I've tried to talk to him, but it's like we're speaking different languages. How do you get through to someone who doesn't seem to care? It's like he's on a permanent vacation from our life. I just want him to notice me, help out a little. It's not too much to ask, right? Sometimes a hug or a simple "How was your day?" would mean the world. Emojis can't solve everything, but 😢 sums it up pretty well.
Still, I tell myself it won't always be like this. Kids grow up, things change. It's just a stormy phase, and I'll come out the other side stronger. I hold onto that hope like a lifeline. Anyone else feeling something similar? Let's hang in there. Life has a funny way of turning things around when you least expect it. I'm ready for that silver lining.

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man, honestly, that's life, you know? sounds like you're blaming the hubs but have you tried really getting into his headspace? sometimes it's not all about what others do for us; "actions speak louder than words". I've been in a similar spot, feeling all 'woe is me', but a reality check helped. got to find time to recalibrate and focus on a team effort. stay focused, buddy 😏 keep pushing.
Your story resonates with many, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. Managing a household can indeed feel like "juggling too many balls in the air," especially with a partner who appears disconnected. Yet, have you considered the possibility that both of you might be experiencing "emotional burnout"?!! Communication is crucial, but it seems like that's a challenge right now. It's concerning to think, "Is this really all there is to adulting?"!! Perhaps a professional mediator or therapist could help bridge the gap??! Life does have a way of turning around, but it's also essential to take proactive steps. Wishing you strength and clarity on your journey.
wow, sounds like you're in a tough spot; i totally get where you're coming from 'cause life can be intense. it's like you got heaps on your plate with the kiddos and all, right? feel you on the husband front tho; sometimes they be like in a diff zone or something. cool that you're holding on to hope, keep your chin up, things can turn around. sending you good vibes.
it's completely understandable to feel like you're drowning under the weight of endless responsibilities and the lack of support at home. the way you're handling school lunches, homework, and work itself sounds incredibly demanding; you're pretty much playing the role of both a project manager and a dedicated caregiver. it's great that you're holding onto hope because kids do grow up; phases change, and this won't last forever. it might help to carve out a small moment for yourself, even if just a few minutes a day. your strength and resilience are evident, and though it feels overwhelming now, remember that you're making a difference in your kids' lives every single day. keep looking for that silver lining...
I get that you're feeling overwhelmed, but I think it's a bit harsh to put all the blame on your husband. 🤔 Sometimes, life's demands can make us feel invisible, like we're "drowning in responsibilities." However, marriage and parenting are team efforts, and communication goes both ways. In my experience, a simple heart-to-heart can often bridge gaps we didn't even know were there. 🤷♂️ Relationships take work from both parties, and while it's tough now, it might help to explore new ways to reconnect.
wow, totally get this; adulting is hard. it's like you're on a treadmill with no stop button. your description of managing "logistics" at home is so accurate. 😩 when my kids were younger, I remember feeling drowned under constant demands. the "invisible labor" in relationships can be suffocating. it's tough when you're giving your all and feel unnoticed at home. hang in there, those storms can't last forever 🌧️
hey, totally feel you on this one! it's like every day is a whirlwind with no pause button; the way you described it as "running a marathon with no finish line" hits the nail on the head. i get how having kids can be like herding cats sometimes, endless energy and needs. do you ever get a chance to take even a small break for yourself, like a quick walk or some chill music? i know it's easier said than done, but it can make a world of difference just to catch a breath. remember, you're not alone in this, lots of folks out there feeling the same way 🌀
i can empathize with your feelings of being overwhelmed, but it's important to consider that both partners often contribute to the overall dynamic in a relationship. while it may seem like your husband is "a ghost," sometimes individuals retreat into themselves when they are stressed or unsure how to engage; in my experience, even minor adjustments in communication can lead to significant changes. it's crucial to recognize that in the complexity of modern family life, roles can become tangled, and intentions may not always be transparent. when my partner and i faced similar challenges, taking time to dissect our individual expectations made a notable difference. perhaps exploring each other's perspectives could be a step toward a solution.
i get that you're overwhelmed, but have you considered your husband's perspective a bit more? 🤔 maybe he's also dealing with stuff you might not see. "Living with a ghost" is a strong statement. i've seen my own friends go through this and found that sometimes their partner felt just as distant. could it be that both of you are stuck in autopilot? communication goes both ways, right? why not take the first step and open an honest dialogue? just a thought.
hey, i get you're feeling like you're drowning, but it's not all on your husband, right? 🤷 sometimes it helps to put yourself in his shoes too; maybe he's struggling in his own way. "marriage is a two-way street," as they say, and both of y'all have to put in the effort. communication is key, and sometimes a meaningful chat can clear the air more than you think. life can be tough, no doubt, but working together might ease the load a bit. just my two cents.