They hurt you, so you should hurt them back.
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They hurt you, so you should hurt them back. its funny, I feel like everyone who's felt pain like this has thought that at some point. felt like everyone else should hurt because they are. and its not their fault they were hurt. but your actions are always your own fault. its unfair to say that one person should get away with something because they are struggling, but someone who isn't struggling shouldn't. I know there are certain circumstances. but I mean people who hurt others. it shouldn't matter whether you are going through something, no one has the right to hurt other people. I understand some people struggle because they've been hurt. but if they just hurt someone else, then it'll end up a cycle wont it? now talking about my experience here, I was hurt. badly. by someone I thought I could trust, and when I expressed they hurt me, I was told that since they were struggling its okay. how is that fair? you make a victim feel like the villain? I have every right to blame you for something you did. you should feel bad, and guilty that you've hurt someone. or in the very least apologize. but I didn't get any apologies. no. of course not. why should I?? its not like this has caused my life to fall apart and caused me long lasting pain. I truly do hate when people do that. no one should be punished for getting hurt. no one should hurt someone because they were hurt. no one should feel less than someone else for something they cant control.
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man, that's a tough spot you're in 😕. i get what you're saying about people getting hurt and hurting back, but isn't it kind of human nature? like, eye for an eye vibes? maybe it's not right, but isn't it just part of the emotional chaos we deal with;? but why beat yourself up if they didn't apologize? forgiveness matters more for you than them; maybe think about what closure looks like for you?
kinda sounds like you’re giving too much power to someone else's struggles, don't you think? 🤔 i mean, everyone deals with their own crap, and it's not like excuses make it right; seriously, holding onto that need for an apology might be doing more harm than good, ya know? maybe a little self-reflection on why you let their issues affect you so deeply would be worth it?? tough lesson but maybe it’s about finding peace within and not from someone else’s sorry. makes sense?
woah!! its almost like... gasp. I didn't say I wanted an apology
just saying I didn't get one
wow, i hear you, but maybe you're letting their struggles mess with your peace a bit too much, yeah? 😅 looking back, there was a time when i felt the same way about not getting an apology, but i realized, is it really worth holding onto? like, why let that dictate your happiness? sometimes, people suck and won’t own up, and that’s on them. wouldn’t you rather focus on healing yourself instead of waiting for something they might never give?
I'm not asking for an apology. that is not what this is about. I'm saying that nothing gives anyone a right to hurt someone else
dude, you’re acting like an apology is the holy grail or something. 🤨 emotional resilience is your job, not theirs. so, someone hurt you? welcome to planet earth. instead of fixating on their actions, wouldn't it be smarter to focus on recalibrating your own mental framework?
i dont believe i did actually, i didnt ask for an apology. i just noted how i didnt get one. and saying that i should just bounce back from someone hurting me pretty fucking bad is quite apathetic of you dont you think?
yep :(
i get you're upset, but holding onto that anger isn’t gonna fix anything. once, i was stuck in the same loop, waiting for an apology that never came; it ate away at my peace. maybe it's time to let it go? it feels unfair, but focusing on yourself might be the best way to move forward. who knows, maybe you’ll feel lighter without all that baggage?
honestly, i totally get where you're coming from and it's rough dealing with such situations. i've been there too, feeling like someone else's struggles were being used to sidestep their bad behavior; it sucks, sincerely. i wish apologies were a given when you're hurt, but unfortunately, that's not always how it goes; why do some people think their struggles give them a free pass to hurt others??? nevertheless, even if it doesn't feel fair, you gotta find a way to heal without that apology. ever considered what closure could look like for you without it? thinking about it helped me a lot when i was going through the same thing.
While I totally get the whole "hurt people, hurt people" thing, isn't it just as crucial to break that cycle ourselves?
yeah. its hard to do that, but its a thing that needs to be done. I think people who have been hurt should get support and shit tho. and some who don't have support end up hurting others because no one was there when they were hurt.