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So basically here’s a short summary
I’m in a relationship with my gf and we’ve been together for about 3 years now and honestly it hasn’t been good. Iv been giving 90% and only ever getting 10% and it’s been like this for the past 3 years almost. Anyways this summer I got a new job and met this new friend and the minute we got together we clicked so fast and idk I kinda started to become physically and emotionally attracted to her. I started to really developed feelings for her and everything. I have to mention this new girl also has a gf. Well the summer ended but they hired me as a staff for another program that this girl is always involved in. So we started this new job again and she was there and we got even closer over the summer. We would text each other and everything and made plans to hang out outside of work and sometimes we would go grocery shopping together. We would text at like 4 am if we couldn’t sleep and just keep each other company. Well 2 weeks ago on Wednesday we had a really heart to heart conversation about life and I basically almost cried and she told me how much she cared about me and everything and then last Friday 2 days later she went cold and just refused to talk to me and it went on for week untill last Friday until I got the courage to speak to her because she’s been ignoring me and when she talks to me she told me how coworkers can’t be friends and how it’s not okay how close we got but I don’t get it I just don’t get it. She’s was friends with all her other coworkers but when it comes to me it’s different. It just hurts so much because I know I’m a shitty person for liking a girl while I’m in a relationship but she meant a lot to me and before she was my friend and I just miss my friend and the person I was able to trust, she told me she called about me and turned on me and I’m just so hurt
 
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It sounds like you've found yourself in a really complicated situation; maybe she put up those boundaries because she's aware of how tangled things could get with both your existing relationships.
Man, sounds like you're caught in quite the love triangle here. Maybe your coworker realized things were heating up and decided to pump the brakes before anything went too far; happens a lot when feelings sneak into work relationships. Honestly, if I were you, I'd reassess what's going on in your main relationship first before diving headfirst into this "coworker connection" — trust me, been there and it gets messy 🥴.
Man, this is a classic case of emotional whiplash! 😤 Relationships are like balancing acts, and it sounds like you've been doing a handstand while juggling fire. Not to mention, workplace relationships can turn into ethical landmines faster than you can say "conflict of interest." It's tough when emotions go rogue on us, but it seems like she drew the line maybe because she could see further complications on the horizon. 🌟 Don't beat yourself up for feeling attracted to someone else; it's natural when you're not getting what you need from your current relationship. Been there myself, and sometimes these situations push us to reassess our priorities.
I get that you're feeling hurt and confused right now; it sounds like a tough spot to be in. It seems like your coworker might have recognized the emotional entanglement developing and decided to draw a line for the sake of both your relationships and maybe even her own peace of mind. Sometimes when we’re feeling unfulfilled in one area, anything new can seem incredibly appealing, but it's worth reflecting on what you truly want long-term. Maybe considering some space for self-reflection could help illuminate what's best for all involved. 🤔
sounds like you're stuck in a tough spot where emotions and friendships are tangled up; maybe she realized that getting too close could lead to more complications, especially when both of you have significant others, and decided it was best to draw the line sooner rather than later.
sometimes it seems like life throws us curveballs when we're already juggling too many balls in the air; navigating feelings for someone new while in a long-term relationship can be really tough. maybe she realized how deep things were getting and needed to put up some shields to protect herself and her own relationship; it's hard but sometimes necessary. i guess the key here is figuring out what you truly want without hurting anyone involved, especially yourself in the process
it's understandable to feel distressed when you form a strong emotional bond with someone, only to have them suddenly pull away; but perhaps her withdrawal signifies a realization of the potential ramifications on both your professional and personal lives, which can sometimes necessitate such tough decisions.
Could it be that she's just grappling with her feelings too, realizing the workplace is maybe not the right setting for such close connections; after all, "The Office" was a TV show, not a guidebook 📚?
Dang, that's a tricky spot to be in; it sounds like both of you might have been searching for something that was missing in your current relationships. It's possible she realized the potential fallout and wanted to distance herself before things got too messy. Maybe take this time to reflect on what you really want moving forward and how you can find fulfillment—both for yourself and within your relationship; keep your head up 💪
bruh, sounds like you're swimming in a pool of emotional chaos and it's splashing everywhere!
dude, it sounds like you’re thrown in this emotional blender right now, and i totally get why it's messing with your head 😩; maybe her pulling back so suddenly is a sign that she realized the situation's getting too real too fast, especially when both of y’all got partners, and honestly man, it might be a chance for you to figure out if staying in a 10%
man, it's rough when someone you clicked with suddenly pulls away; maybe she had to draw a line because things were getting intense and she needed to protect her own boundaries. sometimes we don't realize how deep we've gone until we're in the middle of it. this could be a chance for you to re-evaluate your current relationship too; if you've been giving so much and not feeling fulfilled, it might be worth addressing that first. focusing on what truly makes you happy can guide your next steps and help clear up any confusion you're feeling right now. good luck with everything!
maybe it feels like you're caught in a whirlwind of mixed signals and unspoken boundaries, where the professional dynamics kinda blur with personal ones, but maybe her sudden shift was her way of trying to navigate those same blurred lines; idk, sometimes maintaining that personal integrity means having to make hard choices even if they leave a sting.
bro, i gotta say... it's kinda wild how you felt such a strong connection right off the bat while still being with your gf. 🤔 maybe it’s worth pondering why you didn’t click similarly with your current partner? sounds like she might've just realized things were getting too tangled up and needed to hit the brakes fast before it all got outta hand. sometimes when you're stuck giving 90% in a relationship, meeting someone who vibes with you can be super appealing, but trust—it's crucial to figure out where your feelings truly lie before diving headfirst into a new mess.
sounds like you're dealing with a whirlwind, man. maybe she realized that crossing that line could lead to more drama than either of you bargained for. remember, people often freak out when things get too real. it might be the universe nudging you to reassess both relationships and figure out what's really important to you. prioritize your own peace and clarity first. 🤷♂️