Guilt, I'm not even sure if I love my new dog

Oh, sorry for your losss :(

I also lost my dog (after 10 years) but it was one year ago: we decided to take another puppy because we couldn't imagine our life without a dog... and I was in the same situation than you during the first weeks (even months)... now I still think about my previous dog but I now love my new dog even if our relation is not exactly the same (not the same behavior too)!

time will help :)

hey, i totally feel ya on this one; losing a dog is just the worst, and then trying to connect with a new one right away can be super tough! your old pup sounds like he had such a unique personality, and it's no wonder you're missing that big time. i had a dog once who was pretty similar, like totally grumpy but also the sweetest when it mattered.

it's okay to not feel the love right away; maybe in time, your new furry friend will surprise you and show her own quirky side. sometimes it just takes a bit of time for a new dog's personality to shine through, like when you least expect it, she'll do something that'll make you chuckle. i remember when my new cat came along right after i lost my favorite one, i was bummed out at first, but eventually, he made me laugh in his own way 🙂

give her some time, and maybe try to slowly create new memories and moments with her. you'll never forget your old buddy, but the new one might just have a special place too!

Dont sorry, Your feelings of guilt are understandable, but know that it's perfectly okay to grieve and, at the same time, adjust to a new presence. Give yourself grace and time to see where this new journey takes you, and perhaps, over time, you'll create a different but meaningful bond!

hey, i totally get where you're coming from; it's kinda hard to adjust to a new dog when you've lost such a special one; like, hearing your pup was “blind, grumpy, and just goofy” makes me think of my old dog who used to do the same things; i remember he once bumped into a wall and then just wagged his tail like nothing happened; 😂

it might just take time, you know? bonding with a new dog, especially one who's different, can be tough; maybe try finding new activities you both enjoy or slowly introduce her to stuff that your old dog loved, who knows what her personality will blossom into. my friend went through something similar, and it turned out the new pup eventually filled the void but in a different, equally important way; sometimes it just needs patience, like when we're training a new puppy, gotta give them space to show their own quirks.

anyway, don't beat yourself up too hard; grieving for your old buddy while trying to embrace a new one is not easy! 🤗

i completely agree with your sentiments. inheriting a "show dog" so soon after the loss of your cherished pet is overwhelming. the new dog's "shy and panicky" nature is a stark contrast that makes it hard to form an immediate bond 😕 the unique attributes of your old dog, like being "blind, grumpy, and goofy," are irreplaceable.

this situation reminds me of when i lost my own dog and considered getting another. the differences in characteristics made it difficult to connect and felt almost like a betrayal to my late pet. it's understandable to feel uncertain in your feelings towards the new dog. time may help ease the transition, but don't rush it. feelings and connections can't be forced, so just allow yourself to grieve and adapt at your own pace.

i can understand your perspective but might suggest re-evaluating the situation. transitioning to a new pet, especially a "show dog," requires time and patience. while your old dog was "blind, grumpy, and goofy," and those traits were endearing, the new one deserves a fair chance!!!

comparing them constantly could affect your potential bond. each dog, with their unique set of traits, offers different experiences and companionship. perhaps over time, you might discover unexpected positive attributes in your new dog. it might not be about replacing the old dog, but finding new qualities to appreciate; emotional connections often develop gradually and unexpectedly. this could be an opportunity to embrace different dynamics, however difficult it may seem initially. keep an open mind; the new dog's personality may surprise you in unexpected ways.

i totally get where you're coming from, and i completely agree; losing a dog and trying to connect with a new one is super tough 😔 maybe it's too soon after your old buddy's passing to really feel that love... like, dogs are family, and your old pup sounds like he had such a unique charm with being "blind, grumpy, and goofy."

you might not feel the same connection yet, and that's okay!!! this story reminds me of when i lost my cat and got another one too fast; i just couldn't help comparing them all the time and feeling guilty. it wasn't fair to the new kitty, either. maybe it's worth giving your new dog some time; she might surprise you with her own quirks down the line. emotional bonds don't always form instantly, so take it at your own pace and don't stress out too much about it. who knows, she might turn out to be a totally awesome companion in her own way 🤞

i can see where you're coming from, but it seems like you're being too hard on the new dog. your old pet had unique qualities that you loved, but it's unfair to expect the same traits from another dog 😉 you might be too fixated on comparing them, which is clouding your ability to see the new dog's potential!!!

while it's understandable to grieve your old friend, constantly focusing on the past could prevent you from forming any bond with this new one. give her a fair chance; she might have qualities that you haven't noticed yet. don't let your idealization of your old dog stop you from finding something new and special in this dog. both dogs have their own set of attributes, and maybe with time, you'll learn to appreciate what she brings to the table.

i get where you're coming from, but maybe you're being a bit hard on the new pup. it's tough to move on from your old dog, but it's also an opportunity to experience something new. when i got a new dog after losing my old one, i found it helped to just embrace their quirks instead of comparing them 😊

try to see the new dog's "shy and panicky" nature as a chance to establish a different kind of bond. just as your old dog was special, this new one has the potential to be special in her own way if given time and patience. who knows, she could surprise you with some personality traits that you'll grow to love over time. give her a chance to show you what she's got, and you might find she's an amazing companion too!

i totally agree with how you're feeling. it's a tough spot to be in. losing your old dog and immediately trying to connect with a new one is rough. it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole; your old pup had those quirks that made him unforgettable, and comparing the new dog to him is just natural.

honestly, i've been there myself. adopting a new pet felt like I was constantly weighing them against my last one, and it wasn't fair to either of us. still, holding onto this past comparison could block you from seeing what the new dog might bring to your life. just take your time and keep your mind open—you never know what traits might eventually win you over. it's a process, not a switch you can flip overnight.

man, that sucks, but comparing the new dog to your old one is like comparing apples and oranges. i mean, you just lost a buddy who was one-of-a-kind with all those quirks that you grew to love. honestly, it's not surprising you're struggling to connect with a dog that's got its own set of issues. no shame in feeling guilty or sentimental; just give it time and see where things go. dogs have this weird way of sneaking into your heart when you least expect it. 🤔