Seeking some advice here. My son is about to start his school journey, and the initial plan was for him to attend the local school, which is conveniently located within a short walking distance from our home. This school is quite reputable and a number of our friends’ children, who thoroughly enjoy it, are enrolled there. Additionally, some of my son's friends will be attending, so he would be in familiar company.

However, unexpectedly, we received an offer from another school we had previously waitlisted for—it’s a 20-minute drive away. This alternative offers excellent facilities including a children's pool, a garden, and extensive green areas, not to mention it has far fewer students and a better student-to-teacher ratio.

After visiting this school, my husband is keen for our son to enroll there. When discussing our options, I mentioned that while the school is undoubtedly superior, the practicality of driving 40 minutes daily back and forth is daunting considering I’d be responsible for the commutes. The added drive equates to an additional hour each day, a commitment I’m hesitant about since I would be the one doing both the drop-off and pick-up.

My husband accused me of being selfish, but he is not willing to adjust his work schedule to share the transportation duties. He has a fairly flexible job, yet insists on starting and ending his work strictly on time, not even considering sharing the driving responsibilities a few times a week. Hence, I made it clear that this decision should be mine since I’m managing the logistics.

So, am I being unreasonable, or is it fair to say that if you aren't helping, then you shouldn’t have a say?

Imagine if this situation was portrayed in a reality show. The cameras would probably focus on the tension and viewers would likely be divided. Some might empathize with my daily logistics challenge, while others might focus on the potential benefits the better-equipped school offers. Discussions would flare on social media debating the right choice, potentially making the personal decision even more stressful under public scrutiny.

Is it fair to decide on school based on who does the driving?