feeling doomed

Dang, it sounds really tough to feel stuck like that, and it's understandable you feel drained when everything seems off; maybe doing something just for yourself, even a small thing, could help spark some of that passion again even if it feels pointless at first!

It sounds tough. Staying in a situation that feels unfulfilling is hard, but sometimes it's safer than the unknown. Your love for him complicates things too, and I get that leaving isn’t simple. It's important to find small ways to reconnect with yourself though, even if it's just one small activity you used to enjoy. Sometimes little steps can help.

Man, it sounds like you’re in a real pickle. I get that the idea of leaving seems scarier than staying put, but just chillin' in misery ain't exactly living either; ya know what I'm saying? Trust me, I've been there too... stuck in a rut that felt never-ending; sometimes I’d just scream into the void hoping it'd scream back with some answers lol. Maybe you've already tried this, but what about shaking things up completely?? like starting a small side hustle from home or joining an online community to connect with new people who get you??? And maybe it's high time to stop mourning and start demanding something better from him and yourself???! It might sound cheesy, but if nothing changes, then yeah... nothing's gonna change.

Feeling trapped with no clear path forward can truly weigh down on anyone…

man, that sounds rough. it's crazy how fast things change in relationships. once had a buddy in a similar spot but he made small, conscious efforts to revive his hobbies and found a bit of himself again. not saying it'll solve everything at once, but bringing back even one thing you love might help lighten the load; reconnecting with something simple like paddle boarding or reading could be the first step out of the rut. it won't fix everything overnight, but maybe it's worth a shot👀

You know, reading your post reminds me of a time when I felt suffocated in my own life... and it's rough. It's like being trapped in quicksand. Things went south with someone I cared about deeply too, and we both started drifting apart without even realizing it at first! We never laughed together anymore or shared our little joys. Even though it feels pointless now, try to remember who you were before all this... maybe start small by revisiting one hobby to reconnect with yourself. It won't fix everything overnight but could be a step forward.

Have you considered having an open and honest conversation with him about how you're feeling?

Your struggle's clear but this sounds like you're just giving up without trying something different. If staying with someone who's barely interested works for you, okay, but what about making some changes? Maybe taking control of smaller aspects of your life could help shake things up.

You deserve more than feeling this way every day. Sure, it’s comfortable because it’s familiar; still, should comfort come at the cost of your happiness? Finding new pathways or rediscovering old hobbies might be worth a shot.

Have you ever tried just writing it all down? I've found that sometimes just letting all those jumbled thoughts spill out onto a page can help clear my head, even if I don't have any immediate solutions. It's like having your own personal vent session without interruption lol. When you're feeling suffocated in life, every small thing that pulls us out of the rut is worth a shot. Also, remember you deserve to feel alive and not stuck on autopilot; it's easy to forget that in long-term relationships!

I understand why you feel stuck but leaving isn't always a worse option. Sometimes stepping away brings clarity and strength you didn't know were possible. Relationships can definitely lose their initial spark over time (especially with the pressures you mentioned), yet they can also grow into something else that's valuable too.

Is there any way to share these feelings with him? He might not realize how deep your discontent goes or he might be struggling silently himself. Opening a conversation about how both of you can work on rekindling some of that past connection could make a difference.

It’s wild how relationships can feel like they’re shifting right under your feet, and you barely notice until you're deep in it. Maybe it's worth questioning not just what you're doing wrong, but what's happening between both of you; sometimes people grow apart through no one's fault; It's rough, but facing that head-on might shed some light on whether things could change or if a new path is needed. And seriously, don't beat yourself up about losing interest in hobbies... depression can make everything seem pointless, even the stuff we used to love.

i'm not exactly in the same shoes, but there's this feeling like you're watching your life happen from the outside, and it just aches. i'm thinking maybe there's something about acknowledging you feel heavy and sad that could be a step toward some kind of change? i know being there for the kids adds its own layer of complexity, but what if involving them somehow in those hobbies could lighten things up a bit? it might bring a new dynamic to something old or lead to unexpected moments of joy. reconnecting with yourself through them might offer a fresh perspective.

Why stay then?

Do you communicate openly with him about how you feel?

yea i hear what ur saying there its rough like being trapped in ur own home n life yeah however maybe try focus on bits u enjoy again like start painting or read less maybe dunno could slowly ease back happiness