How to break up
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My partner and I have been on and off for 4 years now. I have a lot of self-esteem issues and issues with mental health like, anxiety and depression. I tried to be honest and tell them that I'm not ready for a relationship as I'm not in the heads pace to ne good to myself or them, but they don't accept the breakup and we end up getting back together. It seems no matter what I say or do we end up back together for a bit until again I feel insecure and ready to end things. We live in the same small town and they are really close to my family. We share bills, but don't live together. I don't have a high paying job and can't afford a
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hey, I totally get where you're coming from. relationships are tricky, especially when mental health is in the mix. I've been in a similar spot, feeling like I'm not ready; it's tough to find the right headspace. but remember, it's okay to prioritize yourself. it's hard when they're close to your family and all, but sometimes you gotta be a little selfish for your own well-being. maybe having an honest heart-to-heart could help both of you understand each other better. sharing bills sounds complicated, but it's not an unfixable issue. take it one step at a time, and don't be too hard on yourself. you're doing your best, and that's what matters.
Sounds like you're in quite the merry-go-round. I agree with you that it's tough dealing with self-esteem and mental health issues while trying to make a relationship work; I've had similar struggles myself. It's like trying to swim against the current.
If you're not ready for a relationship, that's totally valid, and your partner should respect that. If they can't accept the breakup, maybe it's time to put your foot down. "Know thyself," right? Do what's best for you—even if it's uncomfortable. I had to do the same, and it was freeing as hell. 😅
I get it, relationships can be a real headache sometimes. you’ve got these self-esteem and mental health hurdles, and it's like you're stuck in a loop 🤔. saying you’re not ready for a relationship makes perfect sense, but it's wild that you're still pulled back in each time. it's like that old saying, "you can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results." honestly, your partner should be more understanding when you're upfront about your feelings. I've been there, feeling trapped in the mix of expectations and not wanting to disappoint anyone. small towns can make things messier since everyone's in your business. maybe it's time to shake things up and take a step back, you know? otherwise, you're just gonna keep spinning the same old wheel.
complex situation when living in a small town and if people are close to ur family 😅