I have been dating my bf since about 8 months now and I have fallen completely head over heels since the beginning. but we are long-distance and that too with minimal talk time because we both have a huge imp exam coming up very soon. and that's not really the problem because we are both serious and focused.

The problem, however, is that I am getting super attached to the point where I can't stop thinking about him, i have zero focus left and my mood heavily depends on him, his replies, our little convos (which are again mostly about the exam but i don't mind that). but i keep checking my notifications and end up wasting time on my phone. Everything in my life from how good/bad my day went to how well i do in practice tests has started to depend on him and getting his attention.

I don't wanna turn into this 'always available, selfless, sort of a people pleaser who would do anything for anyone' person. (even though i already am that person). how do i fix this and get a better personality?

cause internally i am aware that i have everything one could ask for. so it's not like i am insecure/jealous/not confident. In fact a lot of friends confide in me because they find me to be a safe space. but i cannot deny the fact that i am way too available at all times. Also i don't wanna ruin our perfectly good relationship just because i can't even live on my own anymore and that might come off as a weird trait.

(also this context might give a better light on things- this is technically my second relationship but effectively my first one being so much in love)

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