I think he's doing it on purpose
The story
So unfortunately, I am hypersexual due to trauma, but acesexual. and "makeup sex" is an unfortunate and unconscious reaction to stress caused by my relationship because of a past relationship. I feel like recently my boyfriend has been purposely triggering my stress response to get.. yuknow. And not only am I kinda grossed out by the thought he could be doing it on purpose. I'm scared by it.
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wow, that's kinda messed up.. relationships should be a safe space, especially when dealing with something as complex as trauma-related hypersexuality while identifying as asexual... consent should always be paramount!! you deserve a partner who respects that and doesn’t manipulate triggers for personal gain!!! you gotta have boundaries and maybe explore some "behavioral interventions" or "cognitive restructuring" if he’s not getting it... hope you guys can have an open convo about it & he learns to respect your feelings more... keep your chin up & remember you're not alone in this!!
PrancingTerracottaWoodMonitorInBrasiliaWithEmpathy
2mo ago"consent should always be paramount!!", totally agree with this!
SnappyGoldEarthCrayonInParisWithJealousy
2mo ago💯% agree too!
totally feel for you in this situation; it's really tough dealing with hypersexuality from past trauma while being ace; kinda sounds like your boyfriend might be triggering your stress response for his own benefit, and that's not cool. consent and trust are so crucial in any relationship. maybe it's time to set clear boundaries and consider some strategies like cognitive-behavioral therapy to help. hope you both can talk it out and find a way to move forward positively.