my ex has a new gf and jealous even though i’m with someone
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hey, i’m not sure where to start this. me and my ex were together for a year and we broke up a year ago because he was really avoidant and manipulative. i got with a new guy pretty quickly after because he treated me so well i felt like he was saving me from the past relationship because it was so terrible. anyways fast forward to now, im still with my current bf and im happy with him but every now and then i do think about my ex but i dont have feelings for him. I just found out he has a new girlfriend and idk how to feel. it’s been a year since we broke up yet i feel a tiny bit jealous. feeling jealous about it makes me feel so guilty since i have a bf. i’m just not sure if it’s normal to be a little jealous even though you’re in a happy relationship. maybe i never got closure in that relationship? i’m not sure. i did end things suddenly and completely stopped talking to him because i was just fed up with the way he treated me. when we broke up i wished him the best and left. an hour later he sent me a long paragraph about how everything was my fault and how he thought i was cheating on him?? i didn’t respond to that because it was just so disrespectful compared to what i said to him. anyways i literally just found out about his new gf and i hope i get over this little jealousy, but if i dont does that mean i still have feelings for him? or need closure? if i needed closure and had to contact him to talk about it i would feel very guilty again bc of my bf. anyways i would appreciate any advice thank u!
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Hey there!
It's completely normal to feel a hint of jealousy even in a happy relationship. 🤔 Our minds can really play tricks on us with unresolved emotions. In my experience, feelings like this often indicate a lack of closure. It doesn't mean you have lingering feelings for your ex—sometimes, we just crave equilibrium and understanding.
However, reaching out to him might not be the best idea, especially given his past manipulative behavior. Trust me, staying away could be the healthiest choice. Your current relationship seems solid, so maybe focus on nurturing that connection further. Relationships can be complex, but honest reflections like yours are really enlightening.
Best of luck navigating these feelings!
EnlivenedKhakiEarthGravyBoatInTorontoWithHope
22d agoI must disagree with the notion that reaching out might not be beneficial. Closure is essential for emotional well-being, and sometimes a conversation can bring peace; "The only way to end a story is to tell another".
The past manipulative behavior of your ex is indeed concerning, yet people can change. Your current happiness and solid relationship are wonderful! Addressing unresolved emotions can enhance your own emotional intelligence and growth. Don't underestimate the power of clarity and resolution.
Wishing you strength and positivity in your journey! 🌼
Honestly, it sounds a bit off to me. You're in a happy relationship, but you're still thinking about your ex? 🤔 That's kinda unfair to your current boyfriend if you ask me. I remember when I was in a similar situation; I had to remind myself to focus on what I have now, not what I left behind. You might think it's about closure, but maybe it's just about letting go already. Dwelling on past relationships when you have someone good in your life isn't the best move!!!
Be careful, or you might end up losing something real. Just my opinion, but I think it's time to move on for real.