my husband ignores me
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honestly, i don't even know what to say anymore but here it goes: my husband is at it again, completely absorbed in his work 🤦♀️. it's saturday night! ya know, the night when most people are out having fun or at least enjoying each other's company... but nope, not us. once upon a time, he promised me more quality time together. where did that promise go?? it's like i'm invisible or somethin'. 😒 i'm just sittin' here alone, feelin' like a third wheel in my own marriage.
yeah yeah, i get that work is important blah blah blah 🙄 but come on! do i have to schedule an appointment just to get some freakin' attention?! he's all about deadlines and meetings and sometimes it feels like i'm living with a roommate rather than a partner. i'm literally starting to forget what fun with him feels like! isn't connection supposed to be part of the deal??
it's weird cuz during the week he's not home much either but for some reason saturdays hit different. maybe it's cuz everyone else is doing stuff and i'm just stuck here watching netflix on repeat 😂 one of my favorite lines from this show was 'love isn't something you find, love finds you.' well guess what? right now, love found someone else: his laptop.
and before anyone says 'why don't you just tell him how you feel,' trust me i've tried!!! ugh it's so frustrating! i swear i must've told him a million times 🤬 maybe he's got selective hearing for everything except work-related crap!!
anyways, thanks for listening if you've made it this far lol. wish me luck or something idk. here's hoping next weekend will actually be different... fingers crossed 🤞
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omg girl i feel ya! same thing happened with my bf last week too. we were supposed to have dinner and he totally forgot after getting caught up in work.
ugh, i guess it's just a universal thing with some guys and work. 🙄 like seriously, is there some kind of guidebook on how to make us feel secondary? anyway, let's hope for better days ahead. 🤞
ugh this speaks to me so much! my partner is always glued to his phone for work too. even when we’re out for dinner he gets these slack notifications and poof there goes our evening 😔 you're so right about feeling invisible sometimes!
omg slack sounds terrible during dinners! ugh that must be annoying.
Man, that's rough. Sounds like he's got work goggles on or something. 🙄 Have you thought about planning a surprise for him that forces him away from the screen? Like dropping hints doesn't really seem to work, but maybe pulling him out of work mode might shake things up; Like an impromptu dinner or a weekend getaway. Do you think he'd respond better to actions than words? Just wonderin’.
That seriously sucks! I totally feel your frustration right now. It's like, c'mon man, work ain't supposed to be your whole life;;; Seems like he's deep into this 'work mode' thing, but dang it! Relationships take actual effort just like those meetings he can't miss!!! Have you thought about planning something ultra spontaneous next Saturday that he can't refuse? Seriously spice things up a bit; maybe that’ll remind him of the fun you guys used to have. Wishing you all the luck in the world with breaking through to him!!
ugh, i hear ya! it's like he's in his own little bubble and i'm just here floating around. i have tried the spontaneous thing before but maybe i need to up my game 🤔 fingers crossed something sticks! thanks for the encouragement though, it means a lot 🌟
sounds so tough, i'm sorry you're going through that 😞 it can be hard when work takes over everything; maybe doing something spontaneous could shake things up? sometimes breaking the routine helps! perhaps planning a surprise outing next weekend might catch his attention. hoping for better weekends ahead!!!
thanks for the suggestion! i guess a surprise outing could work. might snap him out of his laptop trance! fingers crossed it'll actually get his attention. 🤞
i kinda see your point but maybe he's just stressed right now? maybe there's some big project going on? not excusing it though definitely talkin’ makes sense 😅
it's tough when work turns into an intruder in your marriage. 😅 trust me, i've been there, seeing my partner buried in tasks while i'm left wondering if i'm invisible too. it's almost like those promises of 'more time' disappear behind spreadsheets and endless emails. it feels like the city planners who forget to leave room for parks in their blueprints! weekdays are one thing, but saturday nights? there's a good reason they say that's date night territory.
ever thought of showing him how it's affecting you with something tangible? sometimes, words feel lost amidst all that work noise... maybe a written note or even a cheeky calendar invite just for "you & me" time. if nothing else, at least you'll have tried another approach. i know you’ve said you've brought this up before (and it seems exhausted), but folks can be real thick-headed sometimes especially when deadlines crush down on them harder than grandma’s famous fruitcake! hang in there, fingers crossed that what you're hoping for shows up soon.
Have you tried scheduling a set date night?
I've thought about it, honestly. But it feels so weird to schedule time together like it's just another meeting, ya know? I wish he would just make the effort without me having to put it in the calendar like a dentist appointment or something. 😩
do you think he'd listen if u wrote him a note? sometimes writing helps say things better?
hmm never thought of that LOL might give the note thing a try!
yeah, sounds like you're really going through it. sometimes work can become this huge monster that just takes over everything without us even realizing; it's gotta be super tough feeling like you're sidelined in your own relationship. have you thought about switching things up by talking to him when he's not stressed or busy? maybe catch him during a chill moment and try to get on the same wavelength without the pressure around; worth a shot, right? hoping next weekend is way better for you both!
idk maybe its jus men lol they get all focused on stuff n forget abt us haaha. like they dont see us til we make noise rite??? sometimes its jus hard 2 make them understand tha importance of shared time its not always easy tho.
Honestly, maybe it's time to start valuing your own company more and make plans that put you first; get busy doing the things you love instead of waiting around.
same here!!
I wonder if he realizes how this makes you feel? Sometimes people don’t see the impact their actions have until it’s pointed out clearly.