Should I feel selfish or mad abt this
The story
my bf is out of town for the week for his family’s vacation and yesterday was day one and he barely talked to me and he said he would do better today and today he has talked a bit more than yesterday it still is not showing any effort. And then we where on the phone and his cousin let her friend come and he and her where laughing a lot and I just found it very weird and it seemed like she was flirting
Yesterday we had a very intense conversation about how I was feeling with everything in life and I tbh ought everything would get better but now I feel it has not
Am I in the wrong
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Hey there, I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. Relationships can be super complicated, especially when there's distance involved. Honestly, it's totally normal to feel unsettled when your partner's communication drops while they're away. The situation with his cousin's friend does sound a bit weird, but sometimes laughter can be just a friendly interaction; don't jump to conclusions just yet.
It's important to have open and honest conversations, like the one you mentioned having yesterday, but expectations need to be realistic too. I've been in a similar situation where I hoped a big talk would be a turning point; however, sometimes progress takes time and isn't instant. Maybe give it a little more time and see if things get better once he's back and you can talk face-to-face.
If it's still bugging you, perhaps raise it with him, but in a way that's understanding of the situation he's in as well. Anyway, hang in there!
hey, I totally get that feeling of unease when communication isn't what you'd expect. but maybe this time apart is a moment to recalibrate expectations? relationships require adaptability, especially during family vacations. it might just be that he's caught up in the familial dynamics;
don't let one situation color the entire relationship though. keep an open mind and see how things pan out. try addressing it calmly when you both have time to discuss it comprehensively. there's certainly potential for mutual growth; stay positive! 😊
feel you on this one, it sounds pretty rough. your bf really needs to step up his game, especially after that deep convo yesterday. like, who just goes silent when they promised to do better? 🙄
a little weird that he’s all laughs with some random girl, right? i’d be feeling off about that too; but hey, maybe a heart-to-heart when he's back can clear the air. communication is key, as always. keep your head up, things might still turn around! 🤞
I luv you
man, I get that you're upset, but demanding 24/7 communication from your bf while he's on a family vacation might be kinda unrealistic 🛑. relationships are all about balance, and sometimes you've gotta let your partner breathe a little. he's with his family, which might mean less time to chat, not 'cause he doesn't care, but 'cause he's busy with them.
about the cousin's friend situation—dude, people laugh and have a good time without it being flirtatious; it's not automatically fishy. maybe don't read too much into it unless you notice a pattern or something. communication didn't instantly improve after your deep chat; well, change takes time, especially when he's out of town. don’t stress too much, and give him a chance to explain when he’s back.