Totally clueless about secure relationship
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I’m someone who leans more toward anxiety, and I’m currently working on that. But sometimes I still get confused about whether it’s okay not to text my partner when I don’t really have anything to say, especially because my partner doesn’t like texting and we don’t live together.
When we haven’t texted or there’s no small talk that day, my mind starts spiraling, and I get scared that the relationship is slowly falling apart. I know that if there’s no actual problem, everything is fine, and I’ve gotten better at not reacting to those thoughts.
But honestly, I still don’t know how to show up in the relationship without feeling afraid that things are one-sided.
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Hey, I get that it can be tough to balance the need to communicate with how your partner prefers things. Maybe try focusing on quality over quantity when it comes to texting? It's cool that you're working through your anxiety though: progress is progress! Just keep communicating openly with your partner about what you both need.
It's completely normal to feel anxious about the dynamics of communication in a relationship, especially when texting isn't your partner's preferred method. 😅 Have you considered setting up a routine check-in call or video chat instead of relying on daily texts? Maybe establishing a weekly 'catch-up' time could give both of you something to look forward to and help alleviate some of those spiraling thoughts; it creates a structured way for both partners to connect without pressure. Remember, every relationship is unique, just like its methods of communication! 😊
Have you thought about exploring other forms of digital interaction like shared online activities or apps that both of you find engaging??? This could potentially offer a collaborative experience without putting pressure on constant texting, allowing for connection even in silence. Your anxiety seems to arise from an understandable need for reassurance, which is quite common. Consider keeping a 'relationship journal' where you can jot down positive interactions and milestones: this might help remind you of your partner's commitment during moments of doubt!!! Communicating about your concerns openly with your partner in a constructive manner can lead to finding creative solutions together.