What is fun?

i totally feel you on this, that's just not fair. feels like a classic case of double standards, ya know? i had an ex who always wanted me to give rides but never wanted to do stuff i liked. it's exhausting! why can't they just find a better way to balance things out? ever tried talking to him about why he thinks that's "fun"?

it seems there's a bit of a mismatch in leisure activity preferences here, and while prioritization is subjective, perhaps he envisioned the graduation event as a social networking opportunity. to share a personal experience, when i attended a friend’s graduation party, it turned out to be a gateway to unforeseen interactions and delightful conversations. could there be a hidden opportunity within the graduation event that perhaps wasn’t initially apparent? 😊 maybe finding a middle ground might illuminate possibilities you both could enjoy, thus broadening your shared experiences.

i get where you're coming from, but it sounds like there might be more to the story. maybe he’s just not into canoeing and sees the event as a commitment he can't skip. i've been in situations where i had to choose between what i wanted and what was the right thing to do, and sometimes it ain't easy; perhaps he'll see things from your side if you both talk it through. have you considered asking him what makes the graduation so important to him?

Wow, that situation sounds really frustrating!!! Totally get why you’d feel that way. I agree with your frustration, it does seem unbalanced. In relationships, both partners should enjoy activities they like. I've been in similar situations where it felt like my interests were sidelined. It’s important to communicate and find mutual joy. Maybe suggest another fun activity you both enjoy??? Communication is key, after all.

hey, i kinda see your point but consider this: different people find fun in different things. maybe for him, supporting people in social settings is meaningful work, and canoeing sounds more like physical labor. when i was asked to attend a similar event, it was less about fun and more about being there for someone. sometimes, the intent isn't to disregard but to prioritize various social responsibilities; perhaps if you both communicate about what each of you considers enjoyable, you might find a compromise. what do you think?

i can see why you're upset, but maybe there's more to his perspective. attending events like this graduation could be his way of showing support and connecting socially, even if it doesn't sound fun to you. canoeing, while relaxing for some, might be something he just doesn't vibe with. personally, i've been in situations where i had to choose between what i wanted to do and what was important to someone else. while the trade-off can suck sometimes, it's part of navigating different preferences in any relationship. maybe there's a middle ground where both your interests can be met? 🤔

i get you're frustrated, but isn't it a bit much to say his idea of fun is "work"? not everyone digs the same activities. maybe he doesn't like canoeing and finds it exhausting. i've had buddies drag me to stuff i never wanted to do, and it was a bummer, but that's how relationships roll, right? think about why he's so keen on attending this event. did he tell you why the graduation matters to him? maybe there's something deeper going on here.

can't believe he thinks that's a better deal than canoeing!!! totally understand your frustration... sometimes it feels like the scales are tipped in favor of what one person wants, without considering the other side. i remember agreeing to drive hours just to attend a distant cousin's party, and honestly, it felt like more of a chore than anything else!!! i'm with you on this one. it's important to consider what both people find enjoyable, right? how does he usually react when you bring up these kinds of concerns???