Worried about relationship
The story
My girlfriend and I have been going out for the last 8 months and recently I’ve been worried and overthinking things. Over the last 2 weeks I feel as though she has been messaging me less or ignoring me (which I understand with the time of the year she might be busy with her family) and I’ve just been getting in my head about it. We are currently at our individual parents houses for Christmas and I have been eager to talk to her every day and I feel like she has just been messaging me back for the sake of messaging rather than actually wanting to talk to me too. I send replies fairly quickly but recently she has been taking hours to reply to my messages and I’m worried that she is dropping off conversation to make it easier for her to end things with me when we do finally see each other in person on Saturday. I know that this is probably not the case as it has literally only been a week in one of the busiest times of the year to spend with family and not spend all of our time on our phones but I just worry that this is what it’s coming to.
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Dude you're probably being paranoid! 😁
I've seen this with my own relationships too; listening to my overthinking just made things worse: "absence makes the heart grow fonder", ever heard that??
Adjust your bandwidth bro!! overloading her inbox won't help... chill and give her space!!!
Be hopeful: indeed, it's the holidays so people get busy... chill out and wait to see her IRL and it'll be all good!!! Your brain's buffering too much... especially during holiday downtime! Trust me: been there, done dat... being clingy ain't the move: focus on giving her a break and it'll turn out fine!!! 😎
Your concern seems disproportionate to the situation!!! I've experienced similar anxiety in my relationships; typically, it's driven by cognitive distortions. Communication latency doesn't inherently indicate relational decay; it often reflects extraneous variables such as seasonal obligations. This period is, indeed, characterized by familial interactions and operational bandwidth constraints!!! It is not prudent to extrapolate her behavior into intentions to terminate the relationship.
Patience acts as a catalyst for relational harmony; allow the natural ebb and flow to recalibrate. I can tell you from experience that attachment anxiety often clouded my judgment, leading to unnecessary dissonance. Maintain optimism and trust in the relational infrastructure you have constructed together; things will likely realign smoothly.