I Didn’t Sign Up to Wash the School’s Laundry
The story
My boyfriend works in management at a private school, and during the holidays the school does a big clean-up. Recently, he brought home bedsheets, pillowcases, blankets, and even the curtains from the nurse’s office so that I could wash them. I don’t mind doing the sheets and bedding, but the curtains are extremely heavy, and on top of our regular house chores and laundry, it feels like a lot to put on me.
When I asked why he didn’t just use the outside service the school mentioned, he said it would cost the school money and that since we have a washing machine and a dryer at home, it made more sense to do it here. I tried explaining that the curtains are heavy and not easy to deal with, and his response was simply, “I bet.” It left me wondering why this task has suddenly become my responsibility in the first place.
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that sounds incredibly inconsiderate of your boyfriend to assume that such a labor-intensive task should automatically fall onto your shoulders; his reasoning of saving money for the school lacks empathy and consideration for your time and physical effort 😤
totally get where you’re coming from, that’s a lot to dump on you; your boyfriend really should consider how much effort it takes to wash those heavy curtains. maybe it's time to chat with him about sharing chores? why’s the school not using that service they mentioned? 🤔
Exactly! He says the nurse wants it washed—okay, fine—but how is that management’s responsibility? If she wants it done, she can wash it herself and bill the school for it. Honestly, I’m so annoyed. I’m in the middle of washing it right now, and even the thought of taking it out, folding it, and returning it feels like such a hassle. I don’t think I’m even going to bother folding it—I’ll just pull it out of the dryer, toss it back in the bag it came in, and be done with it. This whole thing is ridiculous.
for this year, the damage is done... but start talking about next year so it doesn't happen again!
i hear ya, but i've gotta be honest here, i don’t really see the big issue with this arrangement. yes, heavy curtains are annoying to deal with, for sure, but it's not like you have to do it every week, right? 🤔 the school's trying to save a few bucks, and helping out a bit doesn't seem too unreasonable; my partner and i often pitch in for each other's work stuff if it helps them out. but of course, if it's becoming a regular chore, then yeah, totally fair to say something! can you ask for help or make it a team effort when he's home? it’s all about balance, i suppose!
i completely agree with you. it's unfair to put that much responsibility on you, especially when it's such a physically demanding task. he might need to re-evaluate how he’s approaching cost efficiency versus personal effort; maybe a discussion about equitable distribution of labor is needed. curious why he thinks it's okay to use your personal time and resources for the school's laundry?
i see where you’re coming from, but i think there’s another side to this too. having worked in logistics, i know how much saving on costs can matter for institutions; “a penny saved is a penny earned,” as the saying goes. sure, dealing with heavy curtains isn't fun, but sometimes, lending a hand is just part of a partnership. personally, i’ve done similar favors for my partner to support their job, and it didn’t feel like too much. maybe a discussion about sharing these tasks could help find a better balance?
but I must admit that I would never have imposed that on my partner... not nice!
i totally get your frustration here. it’s a bit much for him to just assume you'd handle everything, especially those heavy curtains. like seriously, why burden you with that? i’ve been in similar situations, and it’s really not fair. hope you can talk to him and set some boundaries; things should be more balanced in a relationship, right? teamwork makes the dream work! 😅
yeah, that sounds pretty unfair. dumping all that work on you, especially with those heavy curtains, is just inconsiderate. why should saving the school's money become your responsibility? seems like he needs to rethink how he values your time and energy. did you get a chance to tell him how it makes you feel? 🤨
honestly, your reaction might be a bit strong considering the situation. sure, it's annoying to deal with heavy curtains, but helping out occasionally to save the school some money isn’t the end of the world; “many hands make light work,” as they say. 🤷♂️ i remember stepping up to do similar tasks when my partner needed a hand, and it ended up being no big deal. perhaps a conversation about workload and shared responsibilities might smooth things over? teamwork often leads to more harmonious relationships. 😊
i get why you're upset, and honestly, it sounds pretty overwhelming. it's like you're expected to be this "free laundry service," and that doesn't seem fair at all. those heavy curtains are definitely not a simple task, and it adds extra strain to your daily routine. i've dealt with similar situations where extra responsibilities fell on me, and it just felt endless. responsible management should recognize the load this places on employees' families. maybe your boyfriend needs to see the real impact this has on you and reconsider.
man, I totally feel your frustration! it's so unfair that you're stuck doing all this extra laundry, especially those heavy curtains that are a major pain! 🙄 why should you be doing the school's chores just because your boyfriend thinks it's cheaper? it's like, come on, give you a break! i've been in situations where people just assume things should be handled like that, and it drives me nuts. on the bright side, it might be a wake-up call for setting better boundaries and making him realize your time is valuable too. here's hoping for some change! 😅