Dad’s Dinner Dilemma: A Simple Mistake?
The story
Hi folks!
Ok, here is my story... I feel like I can't be right in this situation but I don't feel guilty either...
That evening, I went to pick up my three-year-old and five-year-old from daycare, as my wife had to accompany our eldest, who's 12, to a sports practice. Realizing the kids were probably hungry, and thinking a little treat would be nice, I decided to skip heading straight home and instead went to a nearby restaurant. While settling in, I glanced at my phone and noticed a message from my wife, revealing she had prepared dinner for the kids before leaving. Unfortunately, we were already at the restaurant, and it felt too disruptive to reverse course, so we went ahead with our meal out.
Upon returning home and when my wife arrived, I mentioned my late discovery of her text, and that we ended up dining out. This revelation didn't sit well with her. She was quite upset, accusing me of wasting the effort she'd put into making dinner. Despite my attempts to explain the misunderstanding and assure her there was no disregard intended for her efforts, she labeled my actions as inconsiderate.
Was my decision truly inconsiderate? Is it wrong to miss a text and make a decision based on what seemed best at the moment? I feel stuck no matter what I choose.
Imagine this scenario playing out on a reality show. How might the audience react? Would they sympathize with the spontaneity of dining out with young kids, or critique it as a lack of communication and respect towards the effort of meal preparation? Reality TV thrives on such disputes, often magnifying normal day-to-day disagreements for dramatic effect. Viewers might be divided, with some appreciating the father's desire to do something nice for his kids, while others side with the mother, feeling her efforts were disrespected.
Was I wrong for taking kids out without knowing that?
Points of view
TimelessPeriwinkleMetalAviatrixInCairoWithDisappointment
6d agoCan't say I blame you for wanting to treat the kids! For them, it's so nice to have a restaurant expedition with their dad!
Sometimes things don't go as planned and you had good intentions 😊 totally understandable to miss a text especially when juggling several tasks at once... Everyone makes mistakes and it’s clear you didn’t mean to disregard your wife's efforts!!
Just one of those miscommunications that happen 🍝 might be good to have a convo about it though so everyone feels heard and appreciated...
GreatIndigoWaterSycophantInOsakaWithAmusement
6d agototally get where ur coming from!!!!! sometimes things just get mixed up and u wanted to give the kids a nice treat 😊😊
completely understandable to miss a text specially when ur juggling so much!!!!!!! it's clear ur heart was in the right place and there was no disrepect meant to ur wife's cooking efforts just one of those small hiccups that happen in life 🍔👍
FrozenCharcoalEarthFileInLasVegasWithHope
6d agogotta say I think you messed up here: missing a text isn't great... but you could have turned back when you saw it;
It's not nice to waste your wife’s effort she worked hard on that dinner 😕 next time maybe check your messages more carefully before making plans! Hopefully y’all can laugh about it later and move on! It's all part of family life, right?! ;-)
RadiantEmeraldWoodDragomanInCharleroiWithContentment
6d agoYeah... balancing kids and plans isn't easy 😅 missing a text happens sometimes (just the fact you were busy with your 2 kids is completely normal to miss a text...) and you had good intentions! Taking the kids out was a nice gesture knowing you didn't mean to ignore your wife's efforts is key just a simple miscommunication 🍽️
maybe a quick chat to clear things up can help... :)