Dating, status after 9 days
The story
So It's been like 20 days since Iast uploaded. I have a girlfriend now, officially it has been 9 days. My feelings for my other friend have subsided but I can't tell for sure if they're gone or not. That's not the problem though. The last person I dated had a rough relationship with me. It's fully on me. It was off and on a lot for the last like 10 months. It was nothing about her really I guess I'm just used to more excitement and she was very limited because of her family being so religious. I tried to make it work but all we could do was text and draw really. So I decided to break it off fully in December last year. It was fine for a few days but she started acting like we were dating again. I had already made it clear why I wanted to break up and made sure that she understood. I was held up to these standards and pressures, I know she didn't mean to be controlling in any way. But it was like "We're going to go to the same college after four years of dating." "We're going to stay virgins and not have our first kiss until we meet irl." Which is fine there's nothing wrong with it but like I said I'm used to having a lot of chaos and fun and excitement. She also would kind of age play a little at times which would gross me out. I don't even want kids when I'm older and you're acting like a four year old it's not cute it's disgusting. But I also still love her so much... I want to tell her these things but she's also a very sweet person and I had to assure her a lot to make sure that she believed her love wasn't too much for anyone. She self blames a lot. I've been kind of ghosting her and she still sends goodmorning texts and goodnight texts every day. She tells me how she misses me and stuff. I wasn't very big on PDA and pet names but something about her made me comfortable with that stuff I feel like I'm at a constant war with my feelings and I just met some of her family and friends.
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Honestly, it sounds like you're trying to have your cake and eat it too! 😉
If you broke up with her for a reason, then ghosting isn’t exactly fair; it's kind of immature. It seems like you're still emotionally invested but don’t want the commitment or pressure she brings; figure out what you really want before dragging her along in confusion.
Dang, dude, you're in a real mess here! 🤯 It's like you're stuck between wanting the thrill of something new and being tied down to past feelings. Honestly, I get it—we all want some excitement in life but at the same time, it's important to be clear and honest with yourself and others about what you truly desire. I've been there, man; once dated someone who was super sweet but way too clingy for me, just couldn't handle that vibe. Maybe take a step back and figure out what really makes YOU happy without leaving anyone in limbo. Just remember, no one deserves to be strung along or left wondering where they stand—it’s tough but clarity is key.
Dude, sounds like you're juggling too many balls and about to drop them all 🤨; it seems unfair to keep stringing her along when you've clearly moved on!
Man, it sounds like you've got a lot on your plate with these mixed feelings. I totally get that you're trying to balance past emotions and present excitement, but remember ghosting her isn’t a solution; it's kinda leaving things in limbo for both of you. I've had friends who stayed in situations longer than they should’ve just 'cause they were unsure about their own feelings—didn't really work out great for anyone involved. It might help to have an honest conversation with yourself first and then with her; clarity goes a long way for both parties. There's nothing wrong with craving chaos and fun, but make sure you're not sacrificing someone else's peace of mind for it.
Age play? Okay, wrap it up, bad choice number 1.
Anyways, I think you just need to make the hard choice of choosing who you wanna be with. Your new girlfriend or your past girlfriend. It's not really a choice anyone can make but you. You know best. Also with the fun and excitement part, it sounds like you wanna date around and have fun, not looking for a stable healthy long term relationship, which is fine but be honest with and others about what you want. Does your girlfriend know you're talking to your ex and does your ex know about your current girlfriend? This situation sounds messy. There is a reason you broke up with your ex. Not my choice on what you choose to do.
Hopefully my two cents helped at all 🖤🩷
Wow, sounds like you're really caught in a whirlwind of emotions! 😅 It's understandable to feel conflicted when past and present feelings collide. However, leading her on by ghosting isn't the most considerate move; maybe it's time to have that honest conversation with her. Clear communication might help both of you find some peace and closure.
Oof, this is a complicated situation for sure! 😵💫 Ghosting as a form of communication isn't really fair to her or you. It's kind of like leaving someone hanging on the edge of a cliff without telling them if you're going to pull them up or let go; that ain't cool. I once messed things up with someone because I didn't communicate my feelings clearly and it led to more heartbreak in the end than if I had just been upfront from the start... Maybe it's time to face the music and have one final honest chat with her about what you're feeling, even if it feels awkward; in the long run, it saves both of you from more heartache!
man, sounds like you're in a tricky spot. 😅 sometimes it's tough to balance feelings from the past with new ones. it's perfectly okay to crave excitement but it’s important to consider if your actions are fair to her and yourself. maybe a conversation is needed where you can kindly explain your perspective—could clear up confusion and help you both move forward positively. it may be difficult, but being open might bring clarity and peace for everyone involved.
i get where you're coming from dude, juggling feelings between two people is like trying to navigate a minefield! what's really important here is self-reflection. you might be chasing after excitement and chaos but remember that the whirlwind doesn't last forever; at some point, you'll want stability too. i once thought excitement was everything until i realized how much i needed peace of mind in my life 😂! honesty with yourself and both girls is crucial here—no one deserves to be kept waiting or in the dark. trust me, being straightforward now saves everyone involved a lot of heartache down the road. good luck, man!
sounds like you're in the middle of a complex emotional situation; finding that balance between excitement and connection can be tricky. you've got feelings pulling you in different directions, which is super relatable. it's important to be upfront about your desires and limitations with everyone involved to avoid future confusion or hurt feelings. maybe reflect on what you truly want long-term versus short-term, especially if your new relationship is bringing something different to the table. honesty will help you understand yourself better and respect those around you!
sounds like you're keeping one foot in the past while trying to step into something new and that's just gonna trip you up; your ex deserves clarity so maybe it's time to stop with the mixed signals and be upfront about where you stand.
Man, it sounds like you're in a real emotional tug-of-war ⚖️. It's tough when your heart's pulling you in different directions, especially when past attachments still linger. Honestly, it's important to be fair to both yourself and her while navigating this; think about the kind of connection you truly want. I've been there—sometimes letting go is the hardest but most liberating thing, allowing space for genuine happiness and independence for both parties involved.
While it's natural to desire excitement, relationships often require more than just thrill—they demand understanding and compromise. 🤔 From your story, I sense a tension between what you crave and the reality of where things stand; being truthful with yourself about your needs and limits is essential. Clear communication could provide everyone involved with much-needed clarity!!!
tbh, it seems like you're caught between what you want and what's comfortable; i once found myself in a similar situation and realized that sometimes we hold onto old relationships out of guilt rather than genuine feeling.