Dating, status after 9 days
The story
So It's been like 20 days since Iast uploaded. I have a girlfriend now, officially it has been 9 days. My feelings for my other friend have subsided but I can't tell for sure if they're gone or not. That's not the problem though. The last person I dated had a rough relationship with me. It's fully on me. It was off and on a lot for the last like 10 months. It was nothing about her really I guess I'm just used to more excitement and she was very limited because of her family being so religious. I tried to make it work but all we could do was text and draw really. So I decided to break it off fully in December last year. It was fine for a few days but she started acting like we were dating again. I had already made it clear why I wanted to break up and made sure that she understood. I was held up to these standards and pressures, I know she didn't mean to be controlling in any way. But it was like "We're going to go to the same college after four years of dating." "We're going to stay virgins and not have our first kiss until we meet irl." Which is fine there's nothing wrong with it but like I said I'm used to having a lot of chaos and fun and excitement. She also would kind of age play a little at times which would gross me out. I don't even want kids when I'm older and you're acting like a four year old it's not cute it's disgusting. But I also still love her so much... I want to tell her these things but she's also a very sweet person and I had to assure her a lot to make sure that she believed her love wasn't too much for anyone. She self blames a lot. I've been kind of ghosting her and she still sends goodmorning texts and goodnight texts every day. She tells me how she misses me and stuff. I wasn't very big on PDA and pet names but something about her made me comfortable with that stuff I feel like I'm at a constant war with my feelings and I just met some of her family and friends.
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Points of view
Honestly, it sounds like you're trying to have your cake and eat it too! 😉
If you broke up with her for a reason, then ghosting isn’t exactly fair; it's kind of immature. It seems like you're still emotionally invested but don’t want the commitment or pressure she brings; figure out what you really want before dragging her along in confusion.
Dang, dude, you're in a real mess here! 🤯 It's like you're stuck between wanting the thrill of something new and being tied down to past feelings. Honestly, I get it—we all want some excitement in life but at the same time, it's important to be clear and honest with yourself and others about what you truly desire. I've been there, man; once dated someone who was super sweet but way too clingy for me, just couldn't handle that vibe. Maybe take a step back and figure out what really makes YOU happy without leaving anyone in limbo. Just remember, no one deserves to be strung along or left wondering where they stand—it’s tough but clarity is key.
Dude, sounds like you're juggling too many balls and about to drop them all 🤨; it seems unfair to keep stringing her along when you've clearly moved on!