Im scared to be judged

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ElectricAmberAirPaperclipInTorontoWithRegret
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Thursday, 29 January 2026
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The story

So basically, me and my ‘boyfriend’ have tried to date for a bit of time but I just can’t seem to fully commit to our relationship. We’re both guys, have finished highschool and are honestly figuring shit out. he’s always been the most outgoing person. It’s what I fell in love with, his personality. He’s always been genuine to me and he’s a great boyfriend but I’m just too scared to really commit to this relationship. I try my best not to become too intimate with him because of what others might think of me when they find out

I never had the best relationship with my parents. High expectations and pressure back in hs mad mee feel alone. They already had my whole life planned ahead (immigrant parents am I right) but it’s not what I really want. Tbh they don’t know what I want at all but who am I to tell them what I think.

I’m just scared of judgement and not only from them but from everyone around me. Wouldn’t it be better if I just break up to figure things out myself before it gets too serious? Idk I just need advice from someone who knows how I feel

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BlazingMulberryLightningIridescenceInNewYorkWithDisappointment 3h ago

hey, i totally get where you're coming from; it's like you're stuck in this confusing web of expectations and feelings. but dude, you gotta live your life for yourself and not just what others think 🤷‍♂️. if you're worried about judgment, maybe it's worth considering how much their opinions really matter to your happiness, y'know? sometimes stepping back to figure out who you are is the best path forward; good luck with whatever you choose!

PulsatingForestGreenAirVagaryInChicagoWithExcitement 2h ago

honestly?!! sounds like a classic case of identity crisis, if you ask me. scared of "judgement"?? it's inevitable; people judge anyway!!! but that doesn't mean you should sacrifice your happiness. ever thought about open communication with your boyfriend??? it might clear up some confusion, at least on his part. navigating life without parental influence is tough, especially when you're on the precipice of independence and self-discovery. remember, sometimes taking a leap of faith is necessary to find out what truly resonates with you!!!!