Can someone pls explain to me what i did wrong??? 😭😭
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OKOK SO MY DAD got like REALLY angry at me yesterday and i dont really get y??
also pls take everything i say kinda with a grain of salt cuz idk his POV and even if i try to be fair im going to kinda favour myself so...
But ok so my parents work A LOT. like i see my dad like sometimes once every 3 days a lot. even tho we live in the same house. (i see my mom more cuz she wakes up early). And this week has been extra stressfull cuz theres been kind of a faire?? (idk how to spell it) and basicly everyday theres a new even they need to prep EVERYTHING for considering dietary needs cultural diferences (people from diferent coutries come) etc etc. So theive been really tired. My dad is coming home early cuz hes so exausted some days.
But basicly, this is stressing my mom sm she got kind of a thing on her neck and her face. The doctor dosent know what it is, since it wasent smt she recognised, but its all red and itchy. The doctor thinks its a mix of stress, alergies, maybe fungi (fungus? idk) and the meds shes taking becuz she got really sick last year.
So my mom went to get it checked yesterday while my dad went home early. So my dad told me and my brother that my mom was in the doctor (since she often comes home waay after my dad) and that we were gonna pick her up later. Ofc me and my brother said ok. So we were hanging out watching tv and my dad got the message that my mom was ready. So he told us and he went to leave. So me and my brother just went to grab our jackets and i went to grab my sketchbook too (long story but i subcouciously hu57 myself if i dont have it??? im trying to fix that) and my dad told us to just come and that he would leave without us. So we got kinda angry but went without our stuff.
Idk if it is important to the thing but it is winter here and kindacold. Also my i was wearing a jacketish but it was a pijama kinda comfort jacket i shouldent wear outside my house. But me and my brother were kinda joking like and playing cuz my dad was in a good mood and we were happy but my dad got super angry and he was like yelling at us for a WHILE and he said we always disrespect him and that we treat him like shit and were gonna kill someone becuz well crash the car and i ofc got stressed so my brother said "dont say anything" and my dad said me and my brother and my mom were ploting against him and that he hopes god gives us children that disrespect us 3times more then we do becuz he dosent deserve this and my brother was crying and it was so wierd??
I kinda thought he was like using us as a vsorta explosion thing cuz he was stressed from work but i talked to my mom today and she said he did nothing the whole week and she prepared everything alone?? She wasent even saying it angry she was just saying like im worried about ur dad and stuff so i dont think it was a lie and it seems like smt he would do.
I can see his point that my mom had a rough week and it would be nice for us to be quick but we literally took less then 5 minutes to leave and i dont think it would make much diference if me and my brother grabbed a jacket and a pen in my case (the sketchbook was by the door i leave it there)
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Wow, that's a lot to unpack! Sounds like your dad is really feeling the pressure lately. 😬 It's tough when parents take out their stress on us, especially when it seems like you're trying your best to help. Maybe he just blew up because he's overwhelmed and needs to vent somehow. But man, I get why it's confusing and upsetting for you too. Hope things chill out soon!
sounds like a mess but honestly, him lashing out at you guys isn't cool regardless of how stressed he is. yelling over something so small suggests there's more going on under the surface. sure, stress can make people snap, but accusing you all of plotting against him and wishing bad things on your future kids? that's just plain excessive and uncalled for. maybe it's time for a serious convo if this keeps up; can't keep walking on eggshells forever.
we talked to him already hes been wierd like that since last year
It's understandable that your dad's reaction seemed over the top given the situation; perhaps his stress simply reached a boiling point, but it's important for everyone to communicate calmly.
sometimes parents explode over the smallest things and it feels like you're walking on eggshells. maybe your dad's stress level is just off the charts, especially if he's not as involved as he thinks in managing everything. hard to manage family dynamics when you feel like you're caught in the crossfire of adult stressors, right? it's like they're projecting their frustrations onto whoever's closest, and unfortunately, that's often us kids.
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It sounds like your dad’s reaction was way over the top for what went down. Stress can do that, but it's still not an excuse to lash out like that, especially when you guys were just following his lead. Maybe this is less about the incident itself and more about some longer-term stress or issues he's dealing with? It's never easy to be in a situation where someone's mood swings catch you off guard. Sending good vibes, and I hope things smooth out soon!
seems like your dad is dealing with some serious stress, but it's not fair for him to unload all that on you and your brother. could be a case of misplaced frustration, especially if he feels guilty about not being around much. family dynamics can get complicated when schedules are hectic. just a suggestion: maybe try discussing how both you guys and your parents can support each other more during these tough times; communication might help ease the tension overall.