confusion
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I don't know what to do.
I'm FTM and I don't think my parents fully understand what's going on or what could happen. They're great supporters, but most of the time when I'm around them (or any other people in my family for that matter) my dysphoria is at it's worst. They'll do things that very obviously show they still see me as a girl and it makes me feel terrible. I don't know if I should bring up how I want to get on puberty blockers because of how they've said binding will damage (even though I have brought up on many occasions I know how to do it safely) and I'm scared they might also say that for the blockers. I think they know how at risk trans people are for su!c!de but aren't willing to accept that I could possibly end up having those thoughts in the future. This type of stuff is called life saving for a reason, and just because I'm not having those thoughts now doesn't mean I won't in the future. I also think they might be completely oblivious to the fact I have dysphoria (and I have brought it up with my mom before).
Honestly I just get exhausted around them. Usually, when I'm having fun with them they'll randomly bring something up that reminds me of how they still view me. My dad still deadnames me a ton, even right after he corrects himself, and both my mom and dad just misgender me in general. My little sister is the only one in the house that kind of understands who I am and actually repsects that (she was the first one I came out to for a good reason). I don't know what to do, especially since serious sit-down talks mess with a lot of my emotions and I have no idea how to bring this stuff up.
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That’s really hard and as someone who’s also trans, I get it. I think you should articulate your feelings on this just as you did here yk? You see their love for you but it’s hard when they hold onto someone that you’ve grown from, and that you’re exploring who you are. What might help is to give them actionable things for them to do that would help you feel more supported. As for the blockers, that will definitely be a tricky conversation. I don’t know what your financial situation is like but if you could get an adult on your side, like a therapist, that may be helpful. You’re not alone and this will pass. Take it one step at a time.
it is profoundly disheartening to witness such a lack of comprehension and empathy from those who ought to be your most ardent supporters. their persistent deadnaming and misgendering signify a grievous disregard for your identity.... good luck and take care :(
it's really tough to deal with family who just don't seem to get it, especially when they're trying but still missing the mark. dysphoria is no joke, and it sounds like your parents haven't quite grasped how deeply it affects you. it’s frustrating when they think they're protecting you by being wary of puberty blockers and binding, but they may not realize the urgency of addressing gender dysphoria for your mental health 🧠. your little sister gets it, so there’s a glimmer of hope there, but it’s got to be draining having to explain yourself again and again. finding a way to have a serious talk is hard, especially if emotions get in the way, but maybe finding a mediator or some resources could help bridge the gap. it’s definitely not an easy situation you’re dealing with.