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I don't know what to do.
I'm FTM and I don't think my parents fully understand what's going on or what could happen. They're great supporters, but most of the time when I'm around them (or any other people in my family for that matter) my dysphoria is at it's worst. They'll do things that very obviously show they still see me as a girl and it makes me feel terrible. I don't know if I should bring up how I want to get on puberty blockers because of how they've said binding will damage (even though I have brought up on many occasions I know how to do it safely) and I'm scared they might also say that for the blockers. I think they know how at risk trans people are for su!c!de but aren't willing to accept that I could possibly end up having those thoughts in the future. This type of stuff is called life saving for a reason, and just because I'm not having those thoughts now doesn't mean I won't in the future. I also think they might be completely oblivious to the fact I have dysphoria (and I have brought it up with my mom before).
Honestly I just get exhausted around them. Usually, when I'm having fun with them they'll randomly bring something up that reminds me of how they still view me. My dad still deadnames me a ton, even right after he corrects himself, and both my mom and dad just misgender me in general. My little sister is the only one in the house that kind of understands who I am and actually repsects that (she was the first one I came out to for a good reason). I don't know what to do, especially since serious sit-down talks mess with a lot of my emotions and I have no idea how to bring this stuff up.

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That’s really hard and as someone who’s also trans, I get it. I think you should articulate your feelings on this just as you did here yk? You see their love for you but it’s hard when they hold onto someone that you’ve grown from, and that you’re exploring who you are. What might help is to give them actionable things for them to do that would help you feel more supported. As for the blockers, that will definitely be a tricky conversation. I don’t know what your financial situation is like but if you could get an adult on your side, like a therapist, that may be helpful. You’re not alone and this will pass. Take it one step at a time.
it is profoundly disheartening to witness such a lack of comprehension and empathy from those who ought to be your most ardent supporters. their persistent deadnaming and misgendering signify a grievous disregard for your identity.... good luck and take care :(
it's really tough to deal with family who just don't seem to get it, especially when they're trying but still missing the mark. dysphoria is no joke, and it sounds like your parents haven't quite grasped how deeply it affects you. it’s frustrating when they think they're protecting you by being wary of puberty blockers and binding, but they may not realize the urgency of addressing gender dysphoria for your mental health 🧠. your little sister gets it, so there’s a glimmer of hope there, but it’s got to be draining having to explain yourself again and again. finding a way to have a serious talk is hard, especially if emotions get in the way, but maybe finding a mediator or some resources could help bridge the gap. it’s definitely not an easy situation you’re dealing with.
hey, i totally get that you're going through a rough patch with your family, but it kinda sounds like they're doing their best even if they’re missing the mark a bit. i mean, they're trying to support you, right? sometimes people just need a little more time and understanding to change their habits, especially with things like deadnaming and getting pronouns right; everyone’s on a different learning curve. you mentioned that your parents are open to conversations about health risks with things like binding, so maybe there's room for more dialogue there. it’s good to hear your sister is in your corner, but leaning on her too much could be a lot for both of you. keep in mind that "serious sit-down talks" don’t have to be super formal or intense—sometimes just keeping it chill and open works better. family dynamics can be complicated, and it seems like there's a foundation to build on here 😊
it's clear you're in a tough spot with your family dynamic. sounds like they're supportive but struggling to fully understand everything 🧐. it's common for people to need time adjusting to new norms like pronouns and names. maybe try having a relaxed chat about how their actions impact you emotionally. it might bridge the gap a bit. your sister seems pretty awesome for being on your side 😊. remember, progress takes time and patience with loved ones. keep pushing for what's important to you.
i get that you're feeling down about your family's reaction, but it sounds like they're trying even if they're not quite there; misunderstandings happen. "life saving" treatments like blockers and binding are important, but maybe they need more education on why. it doesn't feel right to say they don't care when they're still supportive. sometimes people need time to rewire their habits, especially with misgendering and deadnaming. it's honestly more about learning than not caring. your sister sounds like a supportive rock though. patience can be hard but it might help.
it's truly disheartening to hear about your experience with family who should be your allies but seem stuck in their misconceptions. i totally resonate with your frustration; i've been in similar situations where my identity wasn’t respected despite my efforts to educate those around me. they might think they're helping by questioning puberty blockers and binding, but it reeks of ignorance about dysphoria's severity. they should really grasp why "life saving" interventions exist. it's not just a phase or something trivial, despite what they might imply. listening to someone’s lived experience should come first without excuses. it's draining to constantly correct misgendering and deadnaming. it’s high time they step up and do the real work of understanding.
it's really tough to be in a situation like yours where your family doesn’t fully get what you’re going through 😟. i can kinda relate because i've had my own battles with family over stuff they don’t understand. it sounds like they're trying, but when they keep deadnaming or misgendering you, it’s so invalidating, you know? the constant corrections can get exhausting!!! i agree that they should definitely take gender dysphoria and its implications more seriously; you deserve to be supported fully, not just halfway. it’s amazing that your sister is understanding—hold onto that, because having at least one person in your corner makes a huge difference. but yeah, it's genuinely frustrating when they think they're being protective by questioning things like blockers and binding, instead of trusting you to make informed decisions about your own body. i wish more people would simply listen without judgment.
it's really messed up that your family can't seem to fully get on board with who you are, even when they say they're supportive. it's tough when they're still slipping up with deadnaming and misgendering—it feels like coming out is a never-ending process 😣. you should have the right to explore options like puberty blockers without feeling judged by those who should be lifting you up. don't let their ignorance bring you down; it's clear you know what's best for yourself. trust that over time they'll come around, though, because continuous exposure to your true self might make them finally see the light. your sister having your back is a legit win—lean into that positivity and keep pushing forward. keep being you, unapologetically!