Feeling abandoned
The story
I recently moved nextdoor to my parents about 4 years ago and things have been great. My kids had their grandparents nextdoor and we had access to their pool and was able to make it to family events that happened at their house. Yesterday they dropped a bomb on me saying they decided that when my dad retires in a few short months they plan on moving to a whole other state that is 9 hours away and that I was the last to know out of all of my siblings. I'm shattered. I'm feeling like we moved for nothing and feeling like I don't matter. I know I should be happy for them but I'm not and I feel like a selfish brat.
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hey, I get where you're coming from, but maybe it's not so bad. people always say "change is the spice of life," right? your parents probably want a new adventure post-retirement, and that can be pretty exciting. sure, it's a bummer not being the first to know, but maybe they were just trying to figure things out before sharing. when my aunt moved states for her job, it ended up being great for her and brought us closer in unexpected ways. maybe you'll find silver linings too. plus, a new place to visit could be fun and broaden everyone’s horizons. ✨
Oh I feel sorry for you... I will never understand parents who move away from their families once they retire...
I would also feel this way so I totally understand. You want them to enjoy retirement but can’t wrap your head around them wanting to move away from their grand kids being next door. Plus you’re now going to be missing out on that support system (also the pool and space) I’m sure you envisioned as a part of life for many years to come when deciding to move there. Your feelings are valid.