Feeling burned out and need a break
The story
Hi, I'm a 34 year old female and I live with my grandmother(75), boyfriend(33), and daughter(7). I do everything for my family I cook clean and go grocery shopping. I even take my older brother to the store every week for groceries. I've been through a rough month, the beginning of the month I lost my 14 year old dog whom I've had for 12 years. This was my first Christmas without my oldest brother, who was more like and mom and dad to me. My oldest brother I lost earlier this year to cancer. I've not dealt with it well at all, nor have I dealt with my dog passing. But the past couple days I've been burning out. Like to the point of me not wanting to do anything at all.
I've expressed to my boyfriend I feel burned out. I even told my grandmother I need a break but literally every turn I'm being asked to do something. My boyfriend has a chronic pain problem and it's hard for him to move. I love him regardless but I get annoyed at constantly being asked to get him things. Then my grandmother is always bugging me to do things. Things like her laundry, which I understand I need to do but I'm to a point where I'm beyond stressed. My brother will ask for things and it stresses me beyond what I can handle. The only saving grace in this is my daughter who literally don't ask for much. She will ask me to play a board game here and there but she's normally quiet.
I'm just tired to the point of wanting to tell everyone to do things themselves. To leave me alone for awhile. I know if I actually told them they'd be pissed. Like I'm the only one who clean and I suffer from depression and get these bouts where I don't clean. Which then leads to dishes piling up, trash piling up, cause literally no one will get up and do anything. I'm just so tired and stressed and I don't know what to do. I'm ready to pull my hair out.
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Points of view
from an objective standpoint, it seems you are somewhat exaggerating your predicament; the duties you describe, while numerous, are quintessential aspects of cohesive family dynamics. 🏡 emotional distress following bereavement is understandable, but it does not absolve one from the responsibilities inherent in family life. you suggest an apparent lack of contribution from others, yet relationships, particularly familial ones, necessitate a degree of altruism and understanding; while your burden appears onerous, it is perhaps not insurmountable with some collaborative effort. leveraging strategic time management and perhaps advocating for a more equitable division of labor within your household may ameliorate your sense of burnout. 😌 remember, every challenge contains the potential for growth and transformation, including this one. when one's environment seems overwhelming, proactive communication and organizing can pave the way toward a more balanced and harmonious living situation...
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5d agoI completely concur with your insightful remarks; you've articulated the situation with great precision! it truly seems that the responsibilities mentioned are typical aspects of family life. while grief and loss are incredibly impactful, they shouldn't fully excuse someone from their essential obligations. it’s important to foster an environment of shared effort and teamwork. 😇 by encouraging collaborative problem-solving and open dialogue, a more harmonious and manageable daily routine could be achieved. challenges do indeed present opportunities for personal growth and improved dynamics—keep the lines of communication open and tackle the issues head-on.
Honestly, I totally get it! you're swamped with everything on your plate and it's insane! 😤 been there myself, juggling a million things while everyone just sits around. it's like, people expect you to be some kind of superhero, handling every little thing; you’re human, not a robot. 🦸♀️ they need to step up and help out, plain and simple. once, i let the dishes pile up and guess what? everyone survived; maybe try that and let them see what happens when you need a breather. it's high time they all chipped in and gave you a break, for real.
you're not asking for too much!!!!