Hair stuff
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Hi. I know this is all my fault I'm completely aware. but I just wanna vent because it feels suffocating.
I was stupid enough to not brush my hair for 3 months. Just keeping it in a hood all winter because I was so tired I couldn't take care of myself
Now it's so matted I'm scared to see how bad it is.
I'm scared of how my dad will react if he knew, he told me if my hair was tangled again he wouldn't take me to the salon because I'm old now and he's right. Back when I got my hair tangled a lot and went to the salon to cut it, it was fine because I was just a child. But now I'm 17 years old. It'll just be embarrassing
I don't know what to do.
My dad took me out shopping a while ago he bought me a pretty dress and I'm happy and grateful but I didn't know how to express it so he had a argument with me
I didn't want to show him what the dress looked like on me, because it meant taking off my hood and showing him my tangled hair. He got angry and closed the door really loudly
I get his anger, I'm just venting. Not blaming anyone.
I'm the idiot here for never learning my lesson and letting my sadness take over my life
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I get that you're feeling like this is all on you, but don't be so hard on yourself. Life can throw a lot at us, and it's not like there's a rulebook for how to balance everything perfectly. It's important to remember that hair can grow back and mats can be untangled. Maybe consider talking with your dad about how you really feel; it might be uncomfortable at first, but if he understands where you're coming from, he might surprise you by being supportive. Plus, there's a whole community online that's shared tips on getting through similar situations if you're looking for some practical advice.
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from but maybe you're being a bit too harsh on yourself; self-care can be overwhelming sometimes and it's easy for things to slip, especially when things feel tough.
seriously, why are you beating yourself up over this??? like, hair mats happen!!! big deal. you're 17 and figuring things out – it's not a crime not to have everything together, jeez. as for your dad... try using an online guide on untangling; avoid the confrontation altogether! maybe it'll work out better than you think 🤷♂️
maybe it's a good chance to face the mess and take steps towards fixing it; you might be surprised at how patient your dad can be if you're open about where you're coming from.
man, i totally get where you're coming from... i've had my own moments when everything just felt too overwhelming to handle;.. it's hard when all you want to do is crawl under a rock and forget about reality. don't beat yourself up too much; we all slip up sometimes. maybe try tackling it little by little? like watching a couple of youtube tutorials and slowly start detangling it yourself at home—baby steps, y'know? also, i once went through something similar with my mom's reaction about something else, and honestly, the worst part was the anxiety beforehand; people are often understanding if you give them a chance. your dad might surprise you with compassion once he sees that you're working on fixing it yourself! remember, no one's perfect and this too shall pass eventually ✌️
Your situation is indeed challenging, yet it's crucial to refrain from excessive self-reproach at this juncture. The fact that you recognize the issue is a commendable first step; however, avoiding the confrontation won't resolve it. Perhaps addressing your father candidly about your difficulties might elicit a more compassionate reaction than anticipated? While the emotional complexities surrounding neglecting self-care are understandable, what strategies do you foresee implementing to prevent such occurrences in the future?? It's important to remember that everyone encounters setbacks—perfection is not an expectation.
have you considered trying some detangling conditioner or oil to help with getting the knots out?
Sounds like a classic case of winter blues hitting hard; we've all been there, but trust me, untangling life's messes—both literal and figurative—is just part of figuring stuff out.
Honestly, it might be worth trying to calmly explain to your dad the emotional stuff you're dealing with because sometimes parents can be more understanding than we expect.
While it's understandable to feel overwhelmed, viewing this situation as a learning opportunity for better self-care practices may help you see it more positively; "The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.
Hey, I feel you—it can be so tough to keep up with self-care when you're feeling down, but maybe this could be a chance to bond with your dad?
aww, i'm so sorry you're feeling this way! 😔 honestly, i think a lot of people have been through times where self-care just goes out the window. it's super common to get caught up in your own struggles and let things like hair care slip by. sometimes what helps me is just taking a deep breath and breaking the problem down into smaller parts. maybe you could start with a little bit of detangling every day? 🤞and remember, communication is key! open up to your dad when you're ready; he might just surprise you with understanding and support once he knows what's going on. hang in there!
How on earth did you let it go for three months without doing anything?
Man, that's a tough situation. I remember skipping hair care in high school and ending up with a rat's nest too. Maybe try breaking it down over a few days instead of all at once? You'll feel less overwhelmed that way. And honestly, sometimes parents get mad because they’re worried, so your dad might just be freaking out over nothing if you explain what's going on and show you're dealing with it. Keep your head up!