why everyone so mean to me?
The story
i dont get it. like fr why everyone in my family gotta be so mean to me all the time?? i aint even do nothin and still they act like im the worst person in the house. my mom always yellin, my dad dont even look at me half the time, and my brother’s just rude for no reason. i wake up and its already attitude from the second i walk in the kitchen. like, if i ask for something simple like if theres any cereal left, my mom's like “go look yourself” with that tone like she already mad at me for just breathing. why they always act like im the problm?? i swear i try to stay outta the way, i stay in my room most days just chillin or listenin to music but still when i come out its like instant drama.
i be helpin around the house too. i clean my room, i do the dishes even when its not my turn, nd still they find sumthin to complain about. if i put the spoon in the wrong drawer, its like the end of the world or somethin. my dad once told me “you cant do anything right” just cause i forgot to take out the trash one night. like fr?? ONE night. nd he talk to me like i failed at life or sumthin. my brother, don’t even get me started, he be callin me names every chance he gets. annoying, stupid, crybaby... nd my parents don’t say nothing. they just laugh like its funny. well it aint.
sometimes i think maybe i was adopted or somethin, like how else do u explain it? they all so close with each other. laughin at the table, goin out places without me, sharin inside jokes. nd im just... there. invisible. or worse, the target. i tried to ask my mom once, like, why yall always treat me like im the enemy? nd she said “stop makin everything about you.” like, bruh, i only asked cause im tired of feelin like trash in my own house. is that too much?? to want to feel loved in ur own damn family?
school aint much better but at least there, some ppl smile at me. even if they fake, at least they fake nice. at home, i get nothin. no hugs, no “how was ur day,” not even a “good night.” just silence or sarcasm. nd if i say anything back, they say im disrespectful. like sorry for having feelings i guess?? they make me feel like im a burdden. like they’d be better off without me there. nd sometimes, late at night, i start thinkin maybe they're right. maybe i am the problem and dont even kno it. maybe im just broken in some way that makes ppl not wanna be around me.
but then i remember, im just a kid. im only 15. i didnt ask to be here, i didnt choose this family. nd i shouldnt have to beg for basic kindness. im not askin for them to buy me stuff or give me everything i want. i just want respect. some love. someone to say “i see you” instead of makin me feel like a ghost. if i ever become a mom, i swear imma treat my kids like they matter. i wont let them go to bed feelin unloved like i do most nights. i want to break whatever this is, this cycle of meaness that they think is normal.
i dont even kno what to do anymore. talkin dont work, cryin dont help, stayin silent just makes them act like nothin’s wrong. maybe one day i’ll move out and things’ll change. maybe they’ll miss me when im gone. or maybe they wont. maybe they’ll just keep goin like i was never there. all i kno is, i can’t keep holdin all this in forever. it hurts too much. nd im tired of pretendin it dont. so if ur readin this n u ever felt the same way, like ur own family don't even like u... ur not alone. i feel it too. every day. every damn day.
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family dynamics can be really tough to navigate, and it sounds like you're in a pretty difficult spot right now. it's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, no matter what. sometimes, families have these weird patterns or cycles of behavior that they don't even realize are hurtful. maybe it's just their way of dealing with stress or whatever, not that it's an excuse, but it might be why they act the way they do.
you’re doing amazing, keeping up with chores and trying to talk to them; that's more than a lot of people can say they do. just know that it’s okay to feel upset and it doesn't make you the problem. it takes strength to keep going, and you’re doing it every day. maybe with time, things could shift, who knows. you’re still young and there's so much time ahead for things to change. hang in there, and keep being you. it might be hard now, but things can get better. you’re not alone, remember that.
man, that really sucks 😟 i've been there too, feeling like the odd one out in my own home. makes you wonder if you're on a different wavelength from everyone else. i agree with a lot of what you're saying. family should be like your "home team" but sometimes it doesn't feel like they're rooting for you at all.
when i was your age, i remember dealing with similar vibes, like everything i did was wrong according to them; it can seriously wear you down. something i learned is it's important to focus on the people who genuinely care and have your back. even if those people aren't in your family, they're out there. hang in there. sometimes just taking it one day at a time makes a huge difference.
maybe there's more going on with your family than meets the eye 🤔. sure, it seems like they're coming down hard on you, but families have their own quirks and sometimes people don't realize how their words or actions are landing. “stop making everything about you” sounds harsh, but maybe your mom was trying to point something out. i remember back when i was dealing with similar stuff and it turned out my folks were stressed with their own issues and didn’t even realize how it affected the vibe at home;
maybe they see things differently and don't notice how heavy this is on you. i've found that sometimes everyone thinks they're doing their best, but communication misses the mark. not saying it's cool how they're treating you, but it might just be lack of understanding on all sides. maybe it’s worth another shot at a convo, even if it’s tense. i dunno, it's tricky, but worth a thought.
totally hear you on this, families can be really tough to deal with. sounds like you're putting in a lot of effort and still dealing with a lot of negativity; that's honestly rough. it's important to feel seen and appreciated for what you contribute, even if it seems small. the way they’re treating you ain’t right, especially when you’re just trying to get by.
being 15 is already challenging without all that extra stress at home. it’s hard to be stuck in a situation where communication seems like a dead-end. hang in there, hopefully, there will be a chance for things to turn around. keep doing you, your feelings are completely valid.