how to forgive?
The story
Alright folks, here’s the thing: my mom abandoned me when I was just 6 years old. Yeah, she packed up and left, leaving my dad to do all the parenting work. Fast forward to now, I'm 22 and guess what? My mom suddenly decides she wants to be part of my life again. Yay... I mean seriously?! How am I supposed to forgive her for bailing on me like that?
I’m not gonna lie, it’s pretty infuriating! All these years with her absence and suddenly a wild mother appears wanting a reunion tour. Like ok lady, where were you during all my awkward teenage phases when I really could’ve used some help or advice?? It feels like she thinks popping back in is as simple as pressing an 'unpause' button;
My dad's been amazing through all this - he's the real MVP. He did it all while dealing with his own stuff. So now I'm torn between wanting to respect his feelings and trying to find a way to let her back in without totally losing it. But HOW do you forgive someone who's just ghosted forever??? That's the million-dollar question!! Maybe others have been through this kind of insanity before.
Honestly though, people keep saying forgiveness is about freeing yourself blah blah... but it's hard turning those words into action! It's weird being stuck in this emotional limbo – Should I give her a chance or slam the door shut? Looking forward ain't easy when you're still wading through past baggage! 🤔 Would love if any of y'all have insight or similar stories to share!
