I wish my parents cared more.
The story
TW!! abuse, neglect, sh,
when I was a kid, my dad was very abusive towards my brother and myself. I can still remember that all so vividly. like I just saw it. I remember getting beaten for not wanting to eat, I remember the ride to the police station. I remember it all. I don't remember, however, turning up at my grandparents house. we got sent to live with them due to our mother and father being not suitable parents. and for as long as I remember I would always be forgotten. when they all took a two week trip they decided last minute I shouldn't go. when we were going to a carnival, they decided that since they didn't want to have to deal with me I shouldnt come. its been a constant cycle of this sort of thing, they used to only care if I got hurt when they needed and excuse to be mad at my brother. the guilttripping was and still is so bad. In my first year of high school, my mental health got really bad and I was hanging around the wrong crowd who convinced me to hurt myself, and told me ways to do it. so when I realized this was a bad thing and told one of my favourite teachers, they rang my parents. my pop picked me up, and kept asking "why would you do that." as if I was inconveniencing him. and when I got home the took my devices. they didn't ask what happened, they didn't care. they didn't check to see if I was still harming myself. they just said "if community services finds out you do this they'll take you away." and for months they treated me like I was a majorly unintelligent person. when I did get my phone back they would turn my wifi off all the time. I was only allowed one hour, and then the next term or so, my ex boyfriend sexually assaulted me. when I told them, they ignored me. they refused to acknowledge that happened. they treat me like I'm inconvencing their lives by existing. if I told them anything about my identity they would kill me. they didn't care who was hitting on me. they didn't care who was hurting me, they don't care if I'm being bullied. and they only notice the results of these things and blame it on my phone. multiple times I would cry just loud enough for them to hear. hoping they would comfort me and they would just tell me to shut up.
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i hear you, and I do sympathize, but it seems like there might be more to consider here. could it be that your family was just overwhelmed with everything? sometimes people fail to see the impact of their neglect. it doesn't always mean they don't care, although it sure feels that way; it just might be their way of coping. regardless, none of this justifies what you've experienced. i'm curious, have you ever tried to communicate openly with them about how you feel? might be worth a shot?! either way, hope you find some peace and healing through all this. 😊
it seems like there might be underlying factors contributing to your family's behavior that aren't fully addressed here. while your experiences of neglect and lack of support are undeniably significant, there's a possibility that your grandparents were unequipped to deal with the responsibilities suddenly placed upon them. in similar situations, I've seen underlying issues of stress and lack of resources play a big role; yet, that does not excuse their inattention to your needs. however, I am curious whether you've considered how their limitations could be influencing their actions. might there be a chance they weren’t aware of how exactly they impacted you? reflective dialogue can sometimes uncover motives not initially apparent. looking at the broader context, it's possible that their actions stem from their own upbringing or emotional struggles. this doesn't make it right, of course, but it may offer a different perspective. complex family dynamics often require a multi-faceted approach to address such deep-seated issues.
i get that you're really frustrated, and it's understandable given your situation, but sometimes there's more beneath the surface that we might not see. it could be that your family members are dealing with their issues and just don't know how to show support effectively. it's confusing when those who should be there for us seem distant and unresponsive; however, people are often limited by their own experiences and knowledge. i've seen this play out where families just don't get it right because they haven't learned better ways to cope or communicate. perhaps there's a way to express these feelings in a manner that might lead to constructive conversation? opening up that dialogue, as difficult as it sounds, can sometimes bridge gaps and create understanding. but you need to focus on your own well-being and finding a support network that truly understands you. 💬
its not communication, I've tried. most of those attempts ended in being punished in some form
I am deeply sorry to hear about your experiences. It sounds like you’ve endured a lot of hardship and emotional distress. It’s shocking to hear about the neglect and disregard you've faced. Family dynamics can be so complex and challenging, right?! Unfortunately, many people underestimate how critical a supportive environment is for mental health. What you describe reminds me of stories I’ve heard from others who have faced systemic failure in receiving adequate care and understanding. Remember the words of Helen Keller: "Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it." Never lose hope!!! Seeking help from mental health professionals can be a game changer. Keep reaching out for support wherever you can. Stay strong and focus on your well-being!!!
What you went through is completely unacceptable. It baffles me how family, who's supposed to be your support system, can be so blind to someone’s pain. “Family is supposed to be our safe haven,” right? But sadly, that's not the case for many of us. It's absurd that they ignored your cries for help and tried to control you rather than support you. Reminds me of a time when I faced similar ignorance from people I thought I could trust. It's disappointing, but you deserve better than this treatment. I hope you're able to find people who really care about your wellbeing. Don't ever settle for less. 💔
it sounds like you're going through an immense amount of stress, and that's completely valid. however, it’s possible your family’s actions might stem from their own limitations or challenges. their response to difficult situations may not be the best, but at times, people operate within the constraints of what they know or understand. I remember feeling similarly about my own family's reactions when I went through tough times; it turned out they were struggling with their own issues too. still, it's crucial that you seek environments and people that truly support you and recognize your worth. have you thought about exploring those options? it's not easy, but sometimes distancing from negativity helps foster growth ✨.