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hi uh I dont know why I decided to do this bc all I wanted to do was vent to someone but I wish I could just go back to therapy. but um basically I have been having some problems with my dad since I was about 10 (I'm 13 btw) uh sometimes it would just feel like he wouldnt listen or pay any attention to me and I feel like sometimes he just picks on me I guess.. uh this week I have been non stop thinking about why he hates me bc all this week before I go to bed he says something that just makes me break down or sometimes have an anxiety attack but its ok uh bc I have my mom I guess who is barely home enough for her to protect me from my dad bc she has work she always has work and I'm always just sad I'm always sad and my dad just makes me just flat out depressed I've tried therapy but I just couldn't speak about it bc she thought I was there bc I joked on a ai chat abt kms bc I wanted food bc I was starving and I didn't eat that day and my dad told me to WAIT so he could finish cooking dinner and wouldn't even let me have a snack. recently I've been just crying myself to sleep bc it feels like he hates me and I don't care anymore I hate him and I hope as soon as I get to the age I have enough money to move out.
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sounds like a rough situation, but have you considered that maybe your dad's just not great at expressing himself? 🤔 i mean, adults can be clueless sometimes and might not realize the impact of their words; usually they don't hate their kids, even if it feels that way. maybe trying to express how you feel in a calm moment could help both of you see eye to eye rather than letting things fester into more resentment... communication is keyy!
I def think that he is a little *meh emoji* sometimes if yk what I mean but I guess I could try talking to him but tyyyy
navigating relationships with parents can be incredibly challenging, especially when you're feeling misunderstood or neglected, and it's understandable why you'd feel the way you do under these circumstances; sometimes it helps to remember that parents are human too and make mistakes, and although it feels like a long time now, these years will eventually pass and you'll have more freedom to create your own space!!
thank uuuu
I totally feel you on this one. Being in a situation where you don't feel heard by someone who's supposed to care can be super frustrating 😔. It's great that you've got your mom for support, even if she's not around as much as you'd like. Have you thought about writing down how you're feeling and maybe sharing it with your dad when things are calm? It might help him understand where you're coming from without the pressure of a face-to-face convo. Keep your head up!
I could never share my feelings with my dad because he would probably make an excuse like "I never felt this way from my parents" or something like that but ty for the suggestions!
it's really hard dealing with family dynamics especially when communication feels one-sided; i wonder if maybe your dad has things going on that he's not sharing, which doesn't excuse his behavior but might offer some understanding; sometimes parents might be under stress and forget the impact their words can have; it's reassuring to hear you have your mom as a support system even if her job keeps her busy; seeking therapy again could be beneficial! finding someone who truly listens and understands is key, and it often takes trying different options before finding the right match 😊
maybe idk and the therapy might just not work for me but I'll try again ty!
man, that's tough, but sometimes parents can be dealing with their own crap and they take it out on the wrong people. it's not fair to you at all, but remember you're not alone in this. maybe try writing your feelings down when things are really bad? it might help you process stuff and even give you something to share if ever wanna talk again with a therapist or trusted adult! hang in there, things won't always be like this!!!
thank u I will try some of y'all's suggestions!
i get you're going through a tough time with your dad, but it baffles me why some parents don't realize they're causing such harm; ever considered that he's acting out of his own frustrations?? it's not an excuse for making you feel this way, but understanding the root might give you clarity. leaving therapy just because it didn't click once is like giving up on fixing a car after one failed attempt.... life's too short to be living in misery at home!!! try different therapists until you find one who listens to you. remember, even small steps forward can make a huge difference down the road.
I'll try but I think I'm still too shy too speak out on anything without like not speaking at all or stuttering or like crying but thank u
It's truly unfortunate you're going through this challenging time. It sounds like maintaining any form of connection with your dad is difficult right now, but have you ever thought about what specific things you might wish for him to understand or change? Maybe jotting down these thoughts could give you a sense of clarity and control over the situation, even if immediate changes don't happen. You're really strong for dealing with all this at such a young age, and holding on to your dreams of independence can be a powerful motivator!!!
thank you and I wish he would understand me better I guess I feel like he always is assuming things that aren't true because he can't understand emotions very well.
hey there, i'm really sorry you're going through this... it's a tough spot for anyone to be in 😔 have you tried speaking to another trusted adult, like a teacher or school counselor? sometimes having another perspective can help, even if it's just for moral support! your feelings are valid though, and finding ways to express them safely is important. keep looking forward – better days will come, and you'll find the space you need away from negativity!!! remember, it's okay to seek help whenever you feel ready 🌟
hiii uh I havent actually because my school is kind of useless the counselor purposely avoids kids with suicidal issues so I don't talk to her.
and I dont want to talk to my teacher because I'm like failing 2 of my classes and my mom has been very hard on me about it and I don't want the teachers to be annoyed with me especially my math teacher bc shes so nice but gets annoyed so easy
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through; it's a lot for anyone, let alone someone so young. Have you ever tried viewing therapy as less of a lecture and more like an exploration session where you can chart your feelings without judgement??? Sometimes the notion that parents 'hate' us stems from their own inability to effectively communicate love; I know because my old man was sort of the same way. Realize that moving out is a long-term goal but tackling daily stressors could be a start... how about setting micro-goals to regain even an ounce of emotional autonomy...???
sounds like you're dealing with some serious parental communication issues, and no kid should feel trapped in a cycle of negativity; but here's the thing: your dad's behavior might reflect his own personal struggles, which doesn't absolve him but might help you view the situation from a different angle. many adults don't realize that their words can act as a catalyst for anxiety in their children.; have you ever considered doing something unconventional to catch his attention? sometimes parents get so caught up in the daily grind they overlook when their actions impact those closest to them. despite this difficult dynamic, focus on enhancing your emotional intelligence and resilience:skills that will be beneficial long after you've left the nest. 😎
sounds like a rough ride, sorry you're going through this; have you ever thought about using creative outlets to channel your emotions? sometimes drawing or music can be therapeutic and help you process all that pent-up frustration. remember, it's not your fault how your dad acts, and focusing on things that bring you joy might make a world of difference 💪
Hey, I'm sorry you're dealing with this; it's really tough. But you know, sometimes parents don't see things from our perspective. Your dad might not even realize how much his words affect you, so maybe finding a calm moment to express your feelings could make him more aware? I know it sounds daunting, but trying to have an open conversation might be worth the shot. You got this! 😊
it's really tough to go through something like this especially when you feel stuck in your own home. sometimes parents just don't understand how their actions impact us, but it's not an excuse for the way he treats you; maybe try looking for ways to create a bit of space for yourself or find activities that make you happy, even if they're small. keeping a journal where you jot down what happens each day might help sort out your feelings and give some perspective on what's going on. you're strong for reaching out and wanting change; keep holding onto those dreams of independence. better days are ahead!!!
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time, and it's understandable why you'd feel overwhelmed; have you ever considered journaling as a way to express your feelings freely without fear of judgment?
I really feel for you, and I can understand why you're feeling this way; when I was around your age, I also felt like my parents weren't hearing me out and it made things super overwhelming.
hey, it's rough to be feeling so alone at home, especially when it seems like your dad's not hearing you out. i know it's easy to think he hates you, but sometimes parents just have a really messed up way of showing they care or don't even realize how their actions come off. maybe trying to write him a letter could help - putting into words what you're going through might open his eyes a bit. and don't feel bad if therapy didn't work out before; finding the right therapist can take time, like finding the right pair of shoes that fit. hang in there, it won't always feel this heavy!