My sister is awful
The story
I think my sister is narcissistic?
I won't go into to much detail, because the past isn't relavent, but just to quickly summarize our current drama there has been tension between us for months because she wanted to watch a video, I told her no, she got angry at me, then she's made it her life mission to make me is miserable as possible. She shit talked me to all of my friends, told my commissioner to block me, refused to let me get into contact with people who commissioned me (logged me out of my account that I communicate to my customers on, then refused to let me have it back because 'she needed it more'), stole my package because it was "basically hers" cause I owed her a few dollars, She deleted multiple of my projects, she's been logging into my accounts and watching my activity on all of them, and she has been lingering in my room to see if I put anything new into it (she said this herself), and on top of that her lovely gaslighting! She keeps bringing up past events, hating on my friends to justify her honestly torment at this point towards me (things that I did when I was 15, I am currently 19) and it is making me miserable.
I have not been interacting with her because of the way she's been treating me, she finds this frustrating and takes every opportunity that I walk by her to comment on my physical apperance, my personality and my "lack of friends". I chose not to respond. This week, I thought things may have gotten better so I tried to approach her asking a geniune question. It was about tomodachi life, simple conversation, just asking how the game is because she had early access to it, she told be she was unable to run it on her computer, I told her I ordered a physical copy. She immediately accused me of lying, then when I clarfied she started asking me to share it with her, I told her id think about it, this seemed to irritate her even more, she then asked about a previous drama (for short context: she added me into a groupchat with people I was unfaimilar with where they were actively sending explicit photos, they were all alot older then me and they were making some.. interesting.. jokes, I started responding to some of the messages telling them to have some shame, yes it was petty, but there was no reason for her to add me into it) she claimed that me responding to her friends was harassment, and she told me that I should take accountability for it. I honestly, didnt care, I think revealing someone to nude pictures without their knowledge is far worse then a light hearted, almost playful, "have some shame". So I, yes im petty, ignored her, walked downstairs.
She follows me downstairs, screaming at me and calling me slurs, saying that im a harasser for sending messages in the groupchat and blaming me for giving her a panic attack when she saw me message in the groupchat. I told her to leave me alone, and stop harassing me, it was mocking, I kept repeating it over and over again to use her own logic against her, so shed leave me alone. I was being cocky, but I wasnt getting mad or verbally aggressive with her, she starts screaming that I never listen to her, I tell her that ive heard it 1000 times and im tired of her lies. she proudly declares she deleted my projects, I tell I already started a new one, So i dont care, she says good. She then goes on this whole tangent about how nobody in my family loves me, how im worthless and once my family sees through my "lies" they wont love me anymore, she says im insecure, lonely and manipulative, she says this is the reason why I dont have any friends. She goes on to call me the devils reincarnate, says that I had a master plan to make all her friends stop liking her (they stopped liking her because she sabatoged their reputations with blatant and lies, called them slurs, horrible names, blocked them everywhere, started a whole smear campaign against them i swear then expected them to come back to her. they disliked her for a reason.) She just said alot of awful things about me but I wasnt letting it get to me, I pointed out that she physically hurt me during an altercation, where she involved my mother, who looked at all the evidence and realized that my sister was lying once again, when my sister got caught, she pulled out her phone, recorded me, screamed and berated me, then threw a very thick dog treat that ended up hitting my head. I told her that somehow she finds this acceptable, but me messagign in the groupchat was a crime, she tried to go back to the groupchat, I told her I dont care, and I dont have anything to be sorry for, it was petty and stupid yes, but its not nearly as intense as anything shes done (PETTY I KNOW!). She cant win the argument because im tryna act like nothings getting under my skin, she screams that Im a worhtless loser as shes going up, I respond more mad this time, I say that she is the jobless one with no education so who is the real loser, she then screams "atleast im not ugly!" i asked her to repeat herself she calls me a "chud" and runs upstairs.
I told my mom word for word what happened, and my mum confronted my sister about it, and guess what my sister did. She told my mom that I lied and none of that happened, she told her that I started a conversation with her so (??) i couldnt hear her point, but she was denying everything, saying that I lied to gaslight and manipulate my mum into sympathizing and feeling sorry for me, then when my mom called her out on her lie, she screamed off the top of her lungs, got extremely aggressive, insulted me some more, then ran off.
Ive been spending time in the basement because im afraid of her temper and want to be left alone, ive been doing my homework and studying. She comes down, says that I am fat once again, says that I am hogging the tv (mind you, theyve been using the basement tv for three days in a row now), i tell her its not a crime to enjoy the new watching space she gets mad once again because ugh its alot of bickering, then she gets mad at me for rewatching invicinble, she calls me a "larp" (which means poser in the new age) and gets really mad that im watching invincible its so random, shes more mad about that then anything else, then she storms off.
What is her problem. Im also worried cause I was venting on my instagram account (THE NIGHT BEFORE) about how I felt lonely in the family cause everyone had their person but me, and then shes bringing up that im lonely unloved and nobody in the family cares about me. Do you think shes watching my instragram stories on my private account somehow? Im being really paranoid, sure, but shes been logging into all my stuff and that was like so ultra specific!
she even went through all my text messages with me and my mum! so i'm terrified to know how much control she has over my stuff-- I changed the passwords for now but I still feel paranoid as hell! I can't believe I trusted her with so much of my sensitive information. Its not the first time we got into a small argument which she escalates and tries to do anything in her power to hurt me! she's literally used her long nails to dig very aggressively into my arms when I told her that mum told her to take out the trash once, its not unlike her to get aggressive with me but it gets annoying when she cried harassment over a discord message but she physically hurts me, stalks me and is just creepy! She even admitted to me not even a week ago about how she dosen't actually care about any of this stuff she's just annoyed with me and everyone! so like-- what do i even do! this isn't even emotional its for the love of them game!
Do I just ignore her again? Im honestly scared of her.
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wow... your situation sounds really intense and honestly, pretty overwhelming; it seems like she's crossing some major boundaries with you. if she's accessing your accounts without permission, it might be worth looking into two-factor authentication or something similar for extra security. i totally get feeling paranoid when someone is invading your space and privacy like that. have you considered talking to someone outside the family about this, like a counselor or therapist? they could help you navigate dealing with her behavior and maybe offer strategies to protect yourself more effectively. take care! 🌟
This situation appears to be quite troubling, and the actions of your sister are highly questionable and invasive!! Your description suggests an alarming lack of boundaries and respect for personal autonomy. While it seems you've taken steps like changing passwords, it's crucial to establish further measures to safeguard your privacy and well-being; would obtaining professional guidance or involving a neutral third party aid in addressing these conflicts more constructively? It might be beneficial to explore mediation options within the family to address grievances and potentially reach a resolution that respects all parties involved.
man, this situation is wild! it sounds like your sis is crossing all kinds of lines and making life super difficult for you; i wonder if she’s dealing with her own issues that's causing her to act out? sometimes people lash out because they’re struggling themselves. but yeah, maybe setting up some clear boundaries or rules around shared spaces and stuff could help lessen the drama a bit. also, do you have a friend you can crash with for a few days just to get away from the chaos and clear your head? 🤔
wow, that sounds really intense! it must be rough dealing with someone who constantly tries to undermine you. siblings can be incredibly frustrating sometimes, right? have you ever considered maybe getting a lock for your door and definitely keeping your passwords super secure? might also help talking with someone trusted outside the family about this... just to get another perspective or advice!!! it's hard when you're living under the same roof but keeping some distance could help keep things a bit more peaceful!!
Man, this sounds so rough. It's like she's got a grudge and is taking it out in the worst possible ways; honestly, no one deserves to have their privacy invaded like that or be bullied in their own home. It seems like she’s got some serious control issues, and it’s super unfair how she's treating you; I get why you'd be worried about her keeping tabs on your Instagram: I'd feel paranoid too! Maybe focusing on rebuilding those password protections is a good step while making sure you’ve got safe spaces for yourself to chill without worry. Honestly though, I'd suggest trying to find support from someone outside of family dynamics who can help guide you through this mess if you're not already doing that. Stay strong!
damned, this whole situation with your sister sounds like a nightmare!
man, this sounds like a really tough spot you're in, and i'm sorry you have to deal with all this family drama; it seems like your sister is going way overboard with her actions and words, making everything so much harder for you;; maybe she's got some stuff going on herself but that doesn't make it right or fair for her to be treating you like this! 🤨 have you thought about sitting down with someone neutral in the family if there is one? having a sit-down with a mediator who's chill could shed some light on what's happening from both sides without things blowing up. keep safe dude, and look after your wellbeing first because that's what truly matters!
we tried multiple times but she blew up.. multiple times.
whoa dude, your sis sounds like a real piece of work. it def sucks when family drama gets this messy, but you gotta protect yourself; sounds like she's just trying to get under your skin any way she can. it's crazy invasive that she’s been snooping through your stuff and making up lies about you, and honestly, it seems like she's getting off on the chaos. maybe keeping a detailed record of everything she does might help if things get worse or you need to show someone what's really going down. consider talking with your mom again in private without her around so y'all can be on the same page or seek outside support if needed...self-care is key, even when dealing with toxic family members👀
It's clear your sister's behavior is really disruptive, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this kind of stress at home!
the ordeal with your sister indeed sounds challenging, and it's understandable to feel trapped in such a toxic environment; perhaps it would be worthwhile to have a candid conversation with your family about establishing explicit boundaries that protect both you and her from unnecessary conflict.
Man, this situation with your sister sounds beyond difficult. It's like you're dealing with all these microaggressions that are adding up to a heavy load; I had a friend who went through something similar, and what helped them was setting really firm boundaries, even if it feels awkward at first. You know, maybe try writing everything down as it's happening? not just to keep track but also to help you process what's going on. Have you thought about discussing things with someone outside the family who can offer a fresh perspective? 🧐 It might be nice having an unbiased ear. And hey, remember how Frodo said in LOTR "Even the smallest person can change the course of the future"!! so don't lose hope! You got this...
sounds like your sister is spiraling and dragging you into her mess!! 🤔 her behavior is way off the rails and just not cool. ever considered documenting all of this chaos?? maybe even keep a detailed record of everything she’s pulling with dates and specifics... might come in handy if you need to escalate things. honestly, she seems like she's projecting big-time issues onto you: maybe setting some serious boundaries, like limiting any contact to essential interactions only, could help regain some control over your space. also, stay alert on checking out for any new activity on your accounts or devices; trust but verify, right? because at the end of the day, nobody should have to put up with that nonsense!!!
It seems like you're facing a seriously volatile situation with your sister, and I can't imagine how frustrating it must be to deal with her constant provocations. Her behavior is not only invasive but also disruptive to your daily life; have you considered documenting these incidents in detail for your own record? This might provide clarity when emotions run high, or if you need to present this information to someone who can help mediate the conflict. Your sister's actions suggest there's some underlying issue she needs to address herself, but that's no excuse for how she's treating you. Establishing digital boundaries by securing your accounts was a good move!! consider setting an alert system for any unauthorized attempts so you stay ahead of things. Are there other tech-related strategies you've thought about implementing to safeguard your privacy further? 😉
It sounds like you're really stuck in a difficult situation, and it must feel both exhausting and frustrating to have this constant tension at home. It might be helpful to focus on establishing firm boundaries with your sister; even though it seems challenging given the current dynamics, reinforcing these could help reduce her influence over your digital life and personal space. Additionally, exploring healthy outlets for stress relief (whether through hobbies or connecting with supportive friends) might provide you some respite amidst all the chaos. Stay mindful of what you share digitally, too, just until things settle down a bit more securely.
Wow, sounds like you're really in a tough situation with your sister right now. It's wild how she's been prying into your private stuff and making things so chaotic. Maybe it's worth considering if there's any family member you trust who could act as an intermediary without it turning into another explosion? I know you said conversations didn't work before, but sometimes a new approach can make a difference. Your safety and peace of mind should come first though!! try to create some space for yourself where you can think clearly without her interference. Take care of yourself!
Honestly, your sister sounds like a nightmare to deal with, and while I get that siblings can sometimes drive each other nuts, this level of toxicity is on another level!
It truly sounds like you're in a complex and tense situation with your sister; her actions appear to be quite overbearing and emotionally taxing. From your description, it seems there may be some deep-rooted issues at play that she's projecting onto you. Have you considered seeking professional help, such as family counseling or therapy for yourself? It might provide constructive ways to navigate this environment while prioritizing your mental well-being. Remember, maintaining personal boundaries is important and don't hesitate to reach out for support if needed: sometimes an external perspective can shed new light on the situation. Stay strong in the face of this adversity; this too shall pass!
bro, your sister sounds like a handful but are you sure she's the only one to blame here?
I feel like most of my wrong is just petty reactions ive been giving from the shitload of things shes been doing. Its in her nature to bully and isolate all her friends for one minor miscommuncation, shes told me herself she does it out of boredom and for the fun of it, I just never expected to become a target.
Wow, it sounds like you’re navigating through a full-on storm there. It's honestly alarming how far she's willing to go to stir up drama. Have you ever considered seeking some professional advice or help from a counselor? Sometimes getting an outside perspective can offer new strategies for coping with such intense situations. It's tough dealing with family dynamics when someone isn't open to change or discussion, but safeguarding your emotional well-being should be your top priority right now. Do you think moving some of your personal stuff out of reach might help lessen her access and ease the paranoia?
man, your situation with your sis sounds totally exhausting!!! it's tough when someone so close is acting this way; maybe try shifting focus on how you can detach emotionally from her chaos? like, sometimes distancing yourself mentally helps when physical space ain't enough. also, what about exploring meditation or mindfulness exercises to keep calm during these wild moments??? it could help ground you and give ya some mental armor when things go haywire again. stay strong!
I can't even imagine how draining it must be to constantly deal with your sister's behavior; it's like you're navigating a battlefield where any move you make is under scrutiny, but maybe viewing her actions as more of a reflection of her own issues could help distance yourself emotionally and keep your peace intact.
it is genuinely disheartening to see the turmoil you are enduring with your sister!!! her behavior seems to suggest an underlying issue that might be driving such animosity. 🤔 perhaps approaching this from a different angle could help... have you considered seeking professional guidance or support, like counseling? sometimes having an external mediator could open avenues for communicating in a way that's constructive and safe for everyone involved. keep focusing on what brings you peace and stability; nurturing those areas can fortify your resilience amidst ongoing challenges so don't lose sight of them... remember, safeguarding your mental well-being should remain paramount!
It sounds like you're caught in an incredibly distressing and turbulent situation with your sister 😕 Considering the extremity of her actions (like invading your privacy and gaslighting) it might be worth contemplating whether professional intervention, such as family therapy, could facilitate a healthier dynamic? It's clear she has unresolved issues that are manifesting in these destructive behaviors; sometimes having a neutral third party navigate the conversation can uncover underlying causes without immediate defensiveness. Additionally, it’s vital to consider legal avenues if her invasive behavior continues or escalates: knowing your rights regarding privacy is empowering! Stay vigilant about maintaining your boundaries and prioritize your mental well-being; it's commendable how you've managed to keep composure despite everything happening around you.
yo, this sounds like a real mess man. honestly feels like you're trapped in a never-ending cycle of drama with her. but i gotta ask, has she always been like this or is it something new? maybe there's some underlying cause she's not sharing? as for dealing with it, staying calm seems to be working for you, just trust your instincts and keep those boundaries up. ✌️