so like, i'm sitting here at this holiday gathering, right? and i've gotta explain my queerplatonic relationship to the whole family. i swear it's like speaking in a different language to them. they look at me with those confused eyes, nodding but not really getting it? it's kinda frustrating cause it's such an integral part of my life, you know? it's not a romantic thing or just friendship. it's deeper but not in the way they're used to seeing relationships. they've got the usual questions: isn't it just a strong friendship? are you sure you're not dating??? I mean, we've been close practically forever (sharing everything) doing things together that most people assume are "relationship" activities like planning future stuff and taking trips. yet they don't see it; they still wonder why we aren’t just an item officially.

and here I am trying for the hundredth time to break it down in ways that make sense. i can't blame them entirely because it's a pretty new concept for many people outside certain circles, ya know? even with all my explanations about feelings and commitments (that aren't romantic) there’s still that awkward pause like they don't quite grasp what i'm saying? honestly leaves me questioning if they'll ever get it or if every holiday gonna be repeat sessions of schooling my fam on how diverse relationships can truly be.

i mean, sometimes I feel like giving up and just saying we are friends to make it easier. but that feels so disingenuous. it’s like denying a part of myself. it’s exhausting when you want to be accepted for who you are, but you keep hitting this wall of misunderstanding. I shouldn't have to justify my relationship choices, yet here I am trying to explain a bond that feels natural to me while they cling to their old-school ideas.

it’s not just about me either. I worry about how this affects my partner. they deserve to be recognized and understood just as much as I do. every time I have to repeat myself, I can see it takes a toll on them too. I just wish my family could open their minds a bit more and realize that love and connection come in many forms. it would make family gatherings so much more enjoyable if we could just skip the lectures and appreciate each other for who we are.

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