Something about where my mom and me are supposed to sleep ?
The story
To preface, I'm a woman in my early twenties still living in my parents house with no job at the moment. To be precise, I'm living with my mom and stepdad. There's this thing going on since my teenage years where I have to sleep next to my mom, either in her room or in mine, so that she can avoid having to hear my stepdad snoring and to avoid having either of them sleeping on the couch.
My stepdad recently had a motorcycle accident, so he was sleeping in my mom's room while I was sleeping next to my mom in my room. Prior to that, it was the opposite. He's now mostly recovered from it, and he told us a few days ago that, from Monday onward, he would go back to sleeping in my room, and I immediately said no (because I finally got to go back to sleeping in my room, even though I would've preferred to sleep on my own in my room, but I digress) and he added that it's for her comfort. Tonight, he even said something like "I'm warning you, I'm not letting this go on throughout the entire winter".
Am I selfish for wanting my room for myself ? Also, am I weird for being uncomfortable with the thought of my stepdad sleeping in my room again ? On one hand, I understand the need for my mom to have a comfortable bed to sleep in, since her job takes a physical toll on her, my stepdad is getting old ( these two are like, 30 ish years apart ) and we're living in a two bedroom apartment, so it can't be helped, and I don't really want to be a bitch about it. On the other hand, I miss having my space for myself and not having to go to the other room to not disturb my mom because she goes to sleep earlier than me. Also, I'm really not in the best of terms with my stepdad because he makes me a bit uncomfortable and I don't really want him in my proximity, but that's a conversation for another time.
Please tell me your opinions, I'm kinda lost ^^'
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honestly, this situation sounds like a logistical nightmare 🤯. while i understand your mom's need for comfort, and the whole issue with snoring is common enough, it feels somewhat inconsiderate to expect you to constantly rearrange your sleeping arrangements. as an adult, you have every right to claim some personal space in your living environment. hopefully, you guys can find a compromise that respects everyone's needs without making you feel uncomfortable or invaded. maybe suggesting a noise machine or earplugs for your mom could help? good luck 🛌✨!
Nah, you're not weird at all!
i totally get where you're coming from and it's not selfish at all to want some space of your own 😤. the fact that you have to shuffle rooms consistently because of someone else's snoring issue seems unfair, especially when privacy is a basic need. i'm reminded of my own experience with family dynamics, and it can definitely be tricky negotiating personal boundaries in shared spaces. maybe having an honest conversation with both your mom and stepdad might help clarify things? like exploring alternative sleeping arrangements or even discussing rotational schedules 🛏️🔄. your comfort matters too—don't let this be swept under the rug!
sounds like quite the dilemma you're dealing with; having your personal space is crucial, especially at your age when you're trying to carve out independence. i can understand your frustration—it's not just about comfort but also boundaries. sharing a room regularly can be a severe infringement on personal space, and understandably, that fosters discomfort. it could be beneficial for your family to discuss potential solutions more thoroughly; possibly rearranging furniture or investing in soundproofing techniques? while practicality is key, emotional well-being shouldn't be disregarded; best of luck navigating this tricky situation 😊
You ain't selfish for wanting your own space, especially when personal boundaries are being compromised; it's like expecting you to be the 'buffer zone' just because of poor room acoustics or some outdated family hierarchy 🤨!