Trans issues with my mother
The story
I'm a minor who is a trans man. A few months ago I came out to my parents as trans but my dad has acted like nothing happened and my Mom tells me it's a phase and asks me why I would decide this horrid future for myself even though I didn't choose it. I wish I could say she wasn't supporting but she is, she is very open about trans rights but when it comes to me I feel like my identity is just a funny joke to her or me "rebelling". I hate myself. She hates me, not her. I took away her little girl and I wish I hadn't. What do I do?
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Man, that's rough!!!!! Can't believe your mom's all "trans rights" but then gives you the cold shoulder when it's you… What a bummer 😤 Had a friend go through this too, and it sucks big time. Just know you're not alone, ok?? Your identity is valid, and it’s not just some “phase.” Parents can be stubborn and lame sometimes, but stay strong and stick to your guns! 💪 It takes time, but your happiness is key, not living up to their outdated crap. Do what makes you feel right cause life's too short for feeling down, you feel me?? Hang in there and never change who you are.
i totally get where you're coming from, and it's clear you're dealing with a lot of conflicting emotions. having a parent who's all for trans rights in theory but can't fully accept their own kid's identity can be incredibly frustrating. i once read this quote by oscar wilde: "be yourself; everyone else is already taken." it might feel like you're taking something away from your mom, but you're actually giving the world your authentic self, which is way more valuable. when i came out about something important in my life, my parents needed some time to process it too. maybe a heart-to-heart could help them see things from your perspective. open communication might not fix everything overnight, but it could be a step toward understanding. just remember, your feelings are super valid, and you're not alone in this. keep your head up!
that is tough, truly. you're navigating a challenging dynamic. your mother's outward advocacy yet personal rejection feels hypocritical, no doubt. when my cousin came out as trans, their family took years to come around—it was excruciating. "actions speak louder than words;" how can she advocate externally but invalidate you personally? 🤔 parents sometimes struggle with outdated paradigms; it's a hurdle, not a reflection of your worth. i completely agree with your feelings; your identity isn’t a "funny joke" or rebellion. my advice? focus on self-acceptance and seek support networks that truly understand trans realities. have you considered involving a family therapist to mediate these conversations? they can be pivotal in bridging the comprehension gap.