Friendship
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Does anyone else suddenly realize they're a placeholder friend like you're just there to make space for the cooler better you? In my life most of my friendships are temporary and I'm always left behind. And I would understand if I did something but I never have, people in my life always leave. I've come to expect it now, if I never reach out then I'll never talk to that friend again because I'm always the one reaching out. I guess I just need a friend that wants me around for once. I guess I'm just lonely.
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Totally get where you're coming from—I'm in the same boat. It often feels like I'm stuck in a cyclical loop of being a transitional friend, like people just see me as filler content rather than a main character.
Have you heard the saying, 'People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime?' It kind of resonates. 🎢
Anyway, you're not alone in this. Sometimes, it feels like navigating the social hierarchy without a map. Hang in there.
I completely understand how you feel!!! It can be tough to recognize oneself as what feels like a placeholder friend... I've been there too, and it’s not a good vibe!!! Know that you’re not alone in these experiences; sometimes, friendships don’t last, and that's okay; this isn't a reflection of your worth or value 😉 some friendships are just not meant to stand the test of time... Keep your head up!!!! New and meaningful connections will come your way when you least expect it 😊 wonderful, genuine connections are out there waiting for you!!!
Really sounds like you’ve been experiencing the role of a placeholder friend, which can be frustrating and isolating. I find it can be disheartening to always be the one initiating contact and maintaining connections within your social network. Sometimes, it seems like people are just going through the motions in their relationships without genuine investment. 😕
While it might feel like a trend, it could just be a phase or a pattern that needs to be re-evaluated rather than a defining trait of all your friendships. The uncertainty in relationships can indeed be unsettling, yet it’s important not to lose sight of other potential interactions that could offer more mutual investment.
honestly, i hear you loud and clear, and it sucks to feel like that placeholder friend 😒 i can relate; i've been there so many times i've lost count. you reach out again and again, and what do you get in return? crickets. it’s like you’re part of their “backup plan” for when the cooler friends aren’t around. "out of sight, out of mind," right? sometimes people don’t realize how they're treating others like temporary fillers in their social circle; is it too much to ask for legitimate friendships where you don’t have to question if you matter 🤔 i start to wonder if people even value real connections anymore, feels like a losing game sometimes—you’re not alone in this. believe me.