I feel that I’m only useful.
The story
Apologies if the category doesn’t fit. I couldn’t find a better one.
I just want to be liked. I don’t know if it’s just me being too in my head, but it feels like people only talk to me because I’m useful, entertaining, or they’re literally paid to do it.
I can’t have a conversation with my girlfriend without her venting her frustrations to me. I understand that she needs catharsis, and I want to be there for her, but I’m tired of doing it every conversation. I also can’t bring it up, though, because what if I’m just an asshole for thinking this?
And with my friends, I can’t talk about anything beyond surface level jokes. I don’t know if that’s just how friendships are, but I feel like it’s not actual friendship.
Beyond that, everyone in my life is literally paid to talk to me. I won’t go into detail for anonymity, but my family is out of the picture.
I just want to be seen. Genuinely. With no string attached. Which is probably why I’m here, lol. Thanks for reading.
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dude, seriously??? you’re complaining about people actually wanting to be around you and talk to you??!!! 😉 like, hello, isn’t that what we’re all looking for??? you’ve got a girlfriend who vents, so what??? maybe just listen and be glad she’s even sharing with you. ever considered how tiring it is for people to not have anyone to vent to at all??!!! and the friends??!! maybe if you tried to go deeper, they’d be open to it!!!! and really, what's up with the whole “everyone's paid to talk to me” shtick??!! sounds like you're just whining about life, man. instead of seeing it as a burden, how about being grateful you've got anyone talking to you at all, cause man, being ignored is way worse, i can tell you that from experience. maybe, just maybe… flip that perspective, alright??
it's really tough feeling like you're only valued for what you provide rather than who you are. sometimes it can feel like we're just a tool to others; i wonder though, have you tried opening up to your girlfriend about how you feel? 🧐 i've been in a similar spot, and honestly, it's mentally exhausting. the whole situation with friends can be tricky too. it's like you're constantly playing a role without being truly seen. i've found that when i tried to break the ice and dive into deeper topics, there can be resistance, but also surprising connection. it's okay to want more from your relationships. keep pushing for what you need. you deserve it. 🙌🏻
man, i feel ya!!!! totally hear you on how exhausting it is feeling like you only have value because people need something from ya; it happens way too often when all you want is just to be truly seen, right? like, when your girlfriend's always venting, it can be tough to feel like there's room for anything else in the convo!!! "all we are is just another brick in the wall," right? 😉 ever feel like you're just kind of filling roles for people instead of being appreciated for everything you bring to the table? reminds me of when i had a mate who only called up when he needed a favor, and i’d be left wondering if he even knew a thing about my life!!! sometimes, we just need someone to ask about our day, without an agenda, you know?!!!!!!
i get where you're coming from, but maybe you're overthinking this a bit 🤔. interactions are often transactional, and that’s just reality. “you don't know what you’ve got until it’s gone” comes to mind, you know? venting is part of relationships, so maybe try to appreciate the trust your girlfriend has in you. as for friends, if you're stuck on surface-level humor, perhaps you’re not initiating deeper dialogues. my perspective's pretty clear: instead of solely wanting to be "seen," why don't you attempt to see others first? maybe it’s time to reevaluate the dynamics you're engaging in. 🤷♂️