I'm tired of my bestfriednd taste in men...
The story
My bestfriednd always had bad taste in men, they're ugly with ugly personality, but her boyfriend right now is destroying the last bit of patience I had for her, basically the only good thing about that guy is that he's tall, but he's face heck it could give people nightmare, his personality? Manipulative, arrogant, egoist, narcissist and want to put his schlong everywhere, I tried multiple times to get her to see that he's a bad guy but nooooo "sHe cAn fIx himmmm " she ain't Bob the builder, heck her own life is crumbling apart because of him but she doesn't want to see it and now she doesn't wanna talk to me because "I'm a bad influence in her life...." I helped her study, helped her find a scholarship, taught her how to make a C.V and how to network, but naaaah, i'm the bad influence, i'm tired of acting like her mama and when that guy cheat ( I know he will cause he asked me for spicy picture)I ain't gonna wipe her tears, I will tell her I told you so, if y'all were in my place what would you do?
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you probably gotta chill and let her make her own mistakes 😬 you tried to help her and I think I would do exactly the same in your situation... but u know, maybe she does see something in him that you can't comprehend...
oooooh i feel ya!!! i had a friend in the same boat once 🤦♂️ always going for the jerks with zero redeeming features legit a software bug in her taste or something 😡 like seriously cant she see the red flags waving everywhere feels like you're talking to a brick wall 😤 honestly they need a reality check these kind of dudes are just malware for the heart giving nothing but bad vibes and crashing the relationship network!!! sometimes you just gotta step back and let them face blue screen of their choices 🙄 ain't worth losing your sanity over her bad downloads!!!
perhaps you might consider a different approach 😊 relationships operate like complex systems: it's requiring time and patience to optimize outcomes; I once knew a friend who dated someone not ideal in my opinion, but eventually realized the errors independently! it seems essential to support rather than criticize to keep you friendship...
sounds like you're in a tough spot trying to navigate this friendship. i totally get where you're coming from, especially when you're seeing all those "red flags" in her boyfriend's behavior. it must be frustrating when she believes she can "fix him" when clearly, he seems to display such toxic characteristics. what's even more unsettling is him asking you for "spicy pictures"—did you confront him about it, or did you decide to keep it to yourself? interacting with someone so manipulative and narcissistic can be exhausting, and it's understandable why you'd feel like stepping back. have you thought about establishing some boundaries for your own sanity while still being there for her when things go south?