lemme just rant to you rq
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I'm getting really annoyed with my friend B. he seems so distant now and everything I used to do that he found funny or smt he seems to find weird now, like he gives me a look when I do it. and he judges me for everything I do. Literally I've been changing myself so that I can be a better friend to him but he just doesn't appreciate at all what I do for him. it might sound like I'm being selfish but seeing as i've nearly lost sight of who I really am trying to be someone else for him I don't care how selfish I sound. and when he gets triggered he expects me to be like "OH IM SO SORRY R U OK DO YOU NEED A HUG" which I am like that when he gets triggered but he doesn't seem to care about my triggers or boundaries at all. literally ive had to start ignoring my own boundaries bc he ignores them all the fucking time. and I'm fucking done with it. I might be overreacting but idc. hes changed and now I'm not sure if were even friends anymore. when I'm triggered or upset he fucking jokes about it to "cheer me up" but I have music to do that. when I'm triggered, in the moment what I need is support and I never get that from him even if he's the only friend nearby when I get triggered for whatever reason, like he expects me to just fucking deal with it on my own. and yet he expects me to be there for HIM when HES upset or triggered! and then when I do to him what he does to me he's like "you are a horrible person" LOOK AT YOURSELF ASSHOLE! YOU DO THE SAME SHIT TO ME, YET YOU EXPECT TO GET BETTER TREATMENT FROM ME? THINK AGAIN BITCHFACE! and he also expects me to be interested in every single one of HIS interests and looks at ME like mine are WEIRD. He called me fucking PARASOCIAL for liking Kpop idols, like what? YOU SIMP OVER A FUCKING NUMBER FROM AN OBJECT SHOW! its like he thinks he's more important than me or something, and I'm done with it. I hate his fucking guts. I'm so done with his twisted idea of friendship . I've dealt with his shit long enough.
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this story feels kinda off to me smh; sounds like ur just seeing things from ur angle only... tbh, maybe try to chill and talk to B it's not all black and white you know 😅 friendship's a two-way street and both of you might just need to have a heart to heart convo... i mean everyone has things they're into and it's all good! live and let live, ya know? honestly, hope ya'll sort it out: "communication is key" as they say... so give it a shot and maybe things can get back on track!
Sometimes you have to know when to stop trying in a relationship: whether it's friendship or love! This relation seems complex... :-/
B here. Saw you mention this site on the document and went to check out how you're doing. 1st off, i'll be summing up everything youve been saying about me in this one paragraph. Expect it to be lengthy.
ALRIGHTY-O!
1. Distancing is happening for 2 reasons. 1, you seem to be getting attached to other people, and I don't want to get in the way of that. 2, I had this hunch you didn't like me and since my brain tends to villainize people(which you know), I took it out on you. That was my fault, and I apologize.
2. The parasociality claim was kind of exaggerated. Yes, I called it parasocial. It fits the definition. However just because I don't find it comfortable to obsess over real people doesn't mean you can't either. Personally, I just think of how the person in question would feel about someone doing so.
3. I'm glad you opened up about how you feel about me! Just kind of wish you had told me before I made it worse. I'll stay out of your way!
4. The fighting thing. We both know I am a defensive person. No, I cannot control this. Yes, I wish I could.
5. Gravitating towards other people. This one's kind of tricky. See, we don't have many common interests, and you tend to ignore me when I (uncontrollably) talk about a fixation of mine. Also, when I first started having an unhealthy fixation towards Dandy's World, I had felt as if you had confused "hyperfixation" with "interest". However I knew a few friends who shared common interests with me, primarily H.
6. Expection of treatment. I actually, contrary to your belief, don't expect anything! When I vent, it is simply to get it off my chest. If you wish to comfort me, nice. If you don't, alright! Also about the -uhm- treating you like shit? If you would tell me your boundaries you know I wouldn't cross them. Plus that one time where you had genuinely sent me into a shutdown over being triggered? That was one time, and I do not blame you. Once again, in the moment I villainized you and I am sorry.
7. That last part. I feel like sometimes you forget I'm not exactly experienced when it comes to friendship, and I don't always know how it works, or pick up social cues, etc.
8. The judgement thing. I genuinely believed it was in a joking manner, and now that I know you don't take it as such, I'll be sure to correct myself.
9. The expecting to be interested in my interests. I actually don't expect you to even like them? I simply expect you to be okay with them. I know I tend to talk about them a whole lot, and I haven't realized how it has affected you, and I apologize.
end note : I don't actually simp over one, I just thought it was funny. I do like her character though